Would you or wouldn’t you..

Dh told MIL that we are preggers and she said to him that if we wanted to go down the specialist route then they would be ok to pay for it as we aren't entitled to public funding..

At the moment I think no, but I wondered what others thought of it..

I think no just because an ob cant really do anything that a MW cant do. Nothing either of them do will prevent another spina bifida bub so I don't know if I see the point in spending the inlaws money like that for no benefit. I've been on 5mg of folic acid for 10 months and thats all I can really do to prevent it providing I don't end up throwing it all up over the next few months.

I have a high risk babe already, and thought of this too, but thought the same as Linzy, well what can they do really. I figured if we were faced with similar issues then we would be referred again to the appropriate teams like last time

I think you have done everything in your power to have a healthy babe

Yeah I have becks, seeing her tomorrow.

All I get in regards to "extras" this time is an extra scan at 16w and thats only to try and detect potential problems earlier.

Now, I see it differently. I went with an OB for both of mine and they were worth every cent! I had someone in "my court" that had all the facts....nothing against MWs but they can only do so much before an OB might need to take over so better to have one in the loop so to speak.

With Tom I worried that I had totally wasted my money as I saw her briefly a few times during my pregnancy and was in and out of her rooms faster than I could drink my coffee. She was a godsend at delivery though. My MW was excellent but within minutes of the OB arriving, I got the epi that the MW had been asking for for ages. I also got to stay in hospital with Tom when I may have otherwise been kicked out. She just had more clout. Even my MW said that.

After Tom's birth wasnt so straight forward I opted for an OB for my second pregnancy. This was even more important as a) my MW was a totally dick and b) it ended in a c-section.

If we go for no 3 I will definitely use her again.no hesitation.

They may cost but they are great peace of mind.

Just my thoughts.:)

Stacey, my parents offered to pay for a specialist for #1 as I have a couple of conditions that they didn't think I'd be able to labour through easily but in the end I discovered exactly the same as you - I couldn't get more than what I could having a m/w for the specific issues I had. So we just went with the hospital team when the time came.

For your case, it's hard to say because I haven't been there, but I would think like you said it doesn't make a difference to the end result.

Good luck with your m/w appt tomorrow

I would wait and see what she says tomorrow. Which one did you go with the first one we were talking about who did reply or the one you send atxt to second???

You would get more scans with an OB...

I personally wouldnt either, its an awful lot of money that doesnt change the outcome... as long as you have a good mw... which I hope you get a fantastic one this time.

It was very nice of them to offer!

Hey hun, we were in the same boat when we got pregnant after having Eva, and to be honest, getting a private OB never crossed my mind. We were referred to the antenatal clinic at the hospital and saw the specialist there maybe 2-3 times nearer the end of the pregnancy, but this was mainly due to Cooper being breech.

I was just on 5mg of folic acid to prevent spina bifida again as you are, that's about all you can do anyway. To be fair I did have quite a lot of scans but this was more due to the fact that a) I have a radiologist and a sonographer in my immediate family, and b) he was breech until 38 weeks.

I think you are pretty safe just going with your midwife, as long as you have a good one!!! Good luck hun