First-timer baby fears!

Thanks for your messages and wisdom ladies. Yeah, it is just nerves - very common at this stage I hear - as all of a sudden I am looking and feeling very pregnant and I am 3.5 months away from a complete life overhaul! My fears have certainly come to a head recently as the 'great unknown' rapidly approaches and there is no burying my head in the sand now!

I saw my midwife today, told her how I felt too, and she said essentially the same thing as you TRex - it is good to be nervous because then you go and find out and get informed. Knowledge creates a sense of empowerment and a feeling a confidence. Understanding and arming yourself with information enables you to relax, be prepared and believe in yourself that you can do this. You have time to prepare, so use it - the more you know, the better you will feel, the smoother the transition and the easier the adjustment will be when the time comes.

Makes a whole world of sense really ! Fears are so irrational aren't they? But I guess they sometimes force us to act, which is a good thing!


Edited by Pregwithnumber1

I felt exactly the same when I was around 38 weeks and the realisation hit that I was actually going to have a baby soon.

I wasn't really a baby person but moreso that none of my close friends had babies and I had never held a newborn and hadn't been around kids for years.

However, when he arrived it all kicked in.. I was so worried I wouldn't know what to do with him, that I wouldn't be able to change his nappies, that I wouldn't be able to tell if he was hot or cold, how long he should sleep for etc etc. but it all just happens! Of course there are times when I think I don't know what I'm doing but we are all still learning (including DH)

All the very best to those that are pregnant, it will all work out, you'll see!

We were exactly the same before we had DS. I had never held a baby or even been around little babies & I was terrified that I wouldn't know what to do. But once you hold that baby in your arms it's all fine.

And yep, it's a learning curve. DH & I used to joke that it was a good thing DS couldn't talk to other newborns because then he'd realise just what clueless parents we were. We said the other kids would tease him because he got the stupid parents. Babies are pretty resilient-we overdressed him, underdressed him, put nappies on wrong etc etc & he still turned out okay. All you really need to do is love them & the rest comes naturally.

I'm gonna be a first time mum too.
And I agree its a very scary thought to me, but at the same time it just seems so surreal atm I'm afraid baby will arrive and I'll still feel like I'm dreaming.
However I'm lucky that my sister had a small baby and I've seen and held her a few times and changed and looked after her for a cpl of days the last time I was up there and it does sort've come naturally. I like older kids so I'll prolly be trying to speed up time to the toddler stage... awful I know.

Well, I have ten nieces and nephews and have been pretty hands on with them as babies and I was still sooooo nervous with this wee fellow. And I still am with some things hehe, but it is amazing how maternal instinct just comes in. I think the love you have for your baby helps.
My mum said that somes things will come naturally and some things you will just learn and that is very true.