I need some advice..

Yeah, parent's groups are essential, in my books!  Plunket is a great place to start - they can hook you up with a new group once bubs is here, and everyone is just as nervous about meeting a room full of new mums, so it's really not so awkward (especially when you've all got your babies there as conversation-starters!).  I'd encourage every new mum to give it a try.  And if you don't click with that group, just ask to join the next one they run - sometimes it's just luck of the draw. 

Hi there

Well things have been great.
Rachandjack - im in christchurch where is that group it sounds like something i would be interested in. Yeah my DF has alot of issues with his mum and also his dad because he is dying of cancer and couldnt face up to it.. he didnt even tell me he had a dad for the first year we were together as he didnt know how to start talking about it.
He has been really good the last few days, helping me with everything, we went out last night and he had a few bourbons but woke up this morn and decided that he wants to stick to the not drinking because he doesnt like it anymore

Thanks for all your support guys

nice babytyme things are looking up!