Anxiety and Depression

hey Italiah, I hope you know that - you're not alone with how you're feeling.. I think that our partners often find it difficult to understand - even though we may feel that we explain ourselves quite clearly.. 

DH is usually very good but I am often frustrated when spend time explaining what I am going through & I think he did actually take in & understand what i have just shared with him - then later on in the day  - I get upset or seem short tempered and he will look at me like he can't understand what the hell is wrong.. this can turn into a bit of a cycle - but one thing I have learnt is - it's important to remember that at the end of the day we women are quite different from men & our understanding of a situation or issue can be quite different from theirs.. unfortunately!

On top of all of this - we are have the hormones going crazy in our bodies & we are carrying the baby, they can only go by what we say but never really "completely understand" - no matter how hard they try or how much they love us & vice versa..

We are doing so well though - it's really important to remind ourselves ladies - we are doing so well & carrying a child is no easy feat..

warm fuzzies big hugs

Yes, italiah - sounds like you really do need to have a chat with him again - it is hard work looking after 2 children with a 3rd on the way - especially without much support from DH..

It's definitely time for him to compromise hun - both of you wanted this child & these children - not just you. You're in this marriage together..

You're not in the relationship with your kids by yourself - I think he needs to be reminded of these things. Maybe even ask him what it is he thinks you are here for..? Tell him you can't do this on your own & you feel really unhappy about how things are going. Mention how you really appreciate the fact that he works etc but the children & running the household etc is ALOT of work for one person & you would really appreciate the help..

Not sure if this helps but - DH often needs a reminder - I have a big heart to heart - then he says yes - I'll do this - I'll do that.. blah... then things continue on & I realise that nothing much has changed - I raise it again - he then says - I'm busy baby - can you please write it down for me? or remind me? I say - "look I don't want to have to remind you all the time because then I feel like a nag! - I have started to remind him by leaving little notes & saying baby - please don't forget to do the vaccuming..

I have even resorted to leaving a couple of things that he said he would do until he mentions them - then I say - "well.. I did say that I can't do it ALL by myself.. this is a big house you know & i have alot of other things to get done in the day etc etc..."  This has actually worked quite well recently - (it's up to you though - you may find it hard to leave things - I struggled not doing the vaccuming )  floor started to look a bit fluffy/grotty but... all he said was - "that's ok - I'll do it - I just need reminding.."