The Sex and being sad

I was a little disappointed when the scan lady said it was a boy as I really really wanted a girl. DH on the other hand was over the moon and dancing around. I definitely felt guilty that I felt disappointed and was hoping that if they said it was a boy I wouldn't care. But I did. I moped a bit that night mourning that I wouldn't be taking a little girl to ballet lessons or buying gorgeous pink girly clothes but by the morning I felt heaps better and ready to just start thinking about our little boy and what he might be like and what hobbies he might have. I have this gorgeous photo of DH when he was a baby and looking at that really helps, imagining that our little boy might look just like him. So if I see some cute girly clothes I want to buy I just have a look at that photo and feel all warm and excited about our little boy again.

I hope you get the girl you want but if you don't, let yourself be a little disappointed for a bit but pretty quickly you'll be fine about it again.

yup i started a thread on this topic when i was preg with #2.

I cant remember who just said it but i totally agree that no matter what the sex you still feel sad that you dont get the other!! - I finally had a girl this time and even though i was sooo over the moon, for the first week or so after - i had a pang of disapointment that i didnt have a boy!!! weird i know!!! and even tho i had so much fun doing the pink thing - i cried putting the boys things away!!

with #1 i thought he was a girl so was upset.....for like 5 mins when i found out he was a boy...

with #2 i "knew" he was a boy and actually wanted another boy so was excited when i found out at 20 weeks BUT still had a pang of disapointment that again i didnt get a girl....altho for me it was more of a guilt thing bcos all my family were waiting for me to produce a girl!! (all boys on the maternal side).