My biggest worry...

Such a good question to post - something I have struggled with and never thought about as a common experience for mums-to-be. Interestingly my hubby has no issues with the money situation at all but I HATE it. For example I had a small but expensive car accident the other day and was devastated because whereas normally i pay for my own mistakes suddenly I'm not in a position to do so and i feel like he's paying for my mistake.

My way of dealing with it (as best I can) has been to take charge of the finances and be as responsible with budgeting as possible, something he doesn't have time to do working full time. We each have our spending money each month and even though it comes from his salary i worked out a way to cut back my personal spending so that the money for the accident comes out of my side of things, and he doesn't have to change his spending habits. Still i find it's a horrid feeling not earning my own money and i think it will push me in to trying to earn from home in some way after bubs is born, i just need to feel like I'm contributing, and independent in some way! Unfortunately the job I used to do is not one that can be managed part-time so I'm gonna have to be creative and come up with something else.