for the SAHMs - does ur DH do housework??

I honestly feel for you girls that have nasty MILs. Mine is brilliant & has never told me what I should be doing/cleaning in my own house.

In response to Amber’s question, my DH is pretty good around the house. He vacuums once a week, does the dishes & will hang out & put away the washing. He does all his own ironing (one thing the military is good for ). I clean the bathroom & toilet but he’d probably eventually do that if I asked (nagged?) him to. I just prefer to do it myself so I know it’s clean as his idea of cleaning the toilet is to put cleaner under the rim – never mind the seat & lid

I was really determined to not get into the habit of doing everything for him & then you're stuck doing it for life!!

This thread is reminding me how much I love my MIL, she is fantastic!

I am like Peanut and prefer to do the house things myself lol!!  I do all the "kid"stuff, including changing nappies, baths, bedtime etc.  We have our own business and DH works long hours so he isnt here alot.  He does all the man type stuff, the gardens, mowing the lawns etc. 

It works for us (most of the time!!).

Amber, I bet you sooooo have to bite your tongue from saying something to her, she sounds like a snarky you know what!!

As above :)

I dont keep that house as clean and tidy as we would like, but if DH dare maons Im very quick to say right I'll go back to work then and u stay home! He knows jolly well he wouldnt cope doing half as much as I do, and quickly shuts up.

He usually gets Isla out of bed and throws her in with me for hugs in the morning, then will get her breakfast while I get up, then he puts her in the highchair and goes for a run.
He makes his own lunch and often moans that I havent got what he wants- but I just point out the notepad on the fridge where he is meant to write what he wants!
He baths Isla at night, but I run it, he jumps in, then I chase Isla, undress her, then get her out again, dress her, give her milk while he gets out of the bath then he reads her books then I put her to bed.
Thats as much as he does to help with the house and childcare. He does mow lawns/wash cars.

I was different until we moved towns a year ago cos now he is gone at 7.15am to work and gets back at 5.15pm and works 6 days a week. He used to do a lot more as he worked 7-3.30pm 5 days a week so had heaps more time in the afternoon/ evening to help, and wasnt as tired either.
I would like a wee bit more help in the evenings, cos it can get pretty stressful juggling cooking dinner with sorting Isla out at the same time, but when I do need more help I tell him and he does step up. He does play with Isla and /or take her for a walk or to park agfter wrk tho which is great. I do get a break from her. He is not just sitting doing nothing!
I would like him to cook once a week so I can have a break, but hes conviniently forgotten how, lol! He does moan when I want to get takeaways to have a night off from cooking, but wont cook himself, so that does peeve me off a tad!

When we lived near my in-laws i found it really really stressful as I felt judged. Looking back now, I think some (not all) was in my hedad. nowadays, the place is often a mess and my dad often comments on it.
He rabbited on about how not doing the dishes right away (like straight after the mean rather than leaving it til the morning -which is what i often did), is a terrible habit and could make the boys sick. I retorted that the several smoke butts he left on my sidewalk would make them a lot sicker and if he was not happy with the way I did housework, he was welcome to pay for a cleaner for me.
he has since shut up.
DH is pretty good - he works full time as do i so it's a bit different. I find that he is fabulous with the kids, but the dishes, rather than just doing them - "soak"...for hours. so it's a looooong affair, with frequent "breaks", Which often result in six pans half submerged in wtaer, remaining the next day.

fattartsrock wrote: My DH does FA, however he also knows better to moan when the house is a tip and tea is rubbish cos he gets to do it himself otherwise. Also, sometimes I prefer to do it myself cos he does it wrong and it bugs me that I get mad that its wrong when really I should be happy that he helped at all! However, he does help alot at the weekends and does the garden, lawns, maintenence etc, hee also cooks a big roast sunday nights and steak on thursdays.

Im the same, I just get mad when he does it wrong when i should be saying thanks lol but I'll go out to the line and he has hung my good top by its arm!!! and I cringe and yell and he sayd "well I just wont help anymor ethen" and then i get madder LOL
ts a vicious cycle hehe

My DF does the dishes fore me(most og the time lol) and I grt him to makes bottles and change cadens bum and stuff, he dosnt dress him cos he has no idea what to dress him in, wich cracks me up! lol
I get him to bring washing in and stuff.
However most the time he ont do it on his own accord, I ahve to ask, serval times sometimes until he gets off his butt!!

ETA-sorry for the crap typing, caden is on my lap lol

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DF does heaps for Kylah, now that i think about it. When hes home he will take turns feeding her, he plays with her and changes her. He loves dressing her and always dresses her nice. She loves his attention too. Hes usually pretty good at putting her to bed, except he cant just walk out and leave her to cry for a bit and take herself to sleep.

In all reality i think hes great. Hes helping out more around the house and we try to spend Sundays together. I do get really upset when he works all weekend.