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FreeSpirit 
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Posted: 22 December 2009 at 7:43am |
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Well, I'm deeply saddened. My DP and his sister haven't been speaking for a while. And now she has removed me from FB. After much talk with DP, he showed some of the recent messages between him and his sister. Apparently she feels unwelcome in my house (I don't know why, I have always gone out of my way to make her feel welcome). Why on earth do some people have to be all stupid at this time of year?
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FreeSpirit
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Posted: 22 December 2009 at 7:44am |
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Oh, and this statement from her came about because DP pointed out she could always come and see him if she wanted to talk.
Basiclly they are both being stubborn and refusing to communicate.
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Posted: 22 December 2009 at 8:22am |
 sounds to me like she's using it as an excuse. I would say her problem is with her brother, not you, but she's transferring it cos she doesn't want to deal with it (even if she doesn't realise she's doing that). It is not your problem!
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Posted: 22 December 2009 at 8:44am |
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Where they close? Have you been together long? How old is she? Has something happen in her life recently that has made her insecure?
She may be feeling left out, jealous of your relationship with her brother. She sounds young.
I would let them sort it out, & maybe send her a card saying you miss her & invite her around for a girly sister chat just u & her, (that is if you like her usually get on well).
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Posted: 22 December 2009 at 11:29am |
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She brought him up (mother left them when he was 4) and she's 7 years older), so they were fairly close. We've been together for a number of years now. She's in her mid-30's so not a young girl. She's been having health problems this year and my DP has failed to offer her the support she needs. I just feel that it's so sad that she's doing this at christmas, when we should all be putting our differences aside for the sake of our children.
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Posted: 22 December 2009 at 11:50am |
Perhaps it's a cry for attention?
Maybe she's really after your brother's undivided attention, to get the support he hasn't given in the past and is feeling like the only way she can get it is by cutting you out in the hopes she can have him to herself.
What a tough situation for you to be in, but as the others have said, I don't think it's a personal slight on you. She just might be feeling a little helpless and doesn't know where else to turn - especially if she's been the "strong" one while growing up 
I hope you can work through it and get her back on side again. Sounds like she could use a friend like you 
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Posted: 23 December 2009 at 1:23pm |
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Feeling a bit stink!
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