What would you do??

To cut a long story short I no longer talk to my parents, huge argument, decided that I had enough of their crap.

Anyways, my youngest sister (14) and I have been chatting on MSN and it is to say the least, awkward. I don't want any information going back to my parents about things we are doing here in NZ. I know that I can't ask her to keep secrets from them (they know we are chatting to each other) It wouldn't be fair to her. She is already caught in the middle of all this.

I have a Bebo and Facebook profile that she can see photos in, that were taken when A was born. I would like to post more pics so that my friends could see them, to save on the mass emailsand it's easier to be honest but I don't want my sister to show them to my parents (I know she does show them as she has said) I feel that they don't have the right to see her grow up when they couldn't care less about us!

I know that I could ask her to not show them but I feel that it isn't very fair especially since I do send emails to other family members though with pics and they could then show the pics to my parents.

Now, what would you do? Continue to post pics and just let them see what they are missing or not post any on the sites and just email my friends instead?

Thanks in advance!

I think it would upset them more to 'see what they're missing' than for them not to see pictures at all.

Danaj wrote: Blimey, must have been a doozey of an argument.

 

Thats what I was thinking...mind you....there are times when I entertain the thought.

Eek hugs - I feel sorry for you!

At the end of the day it comes down to what you feel happy doing.

Have you tried talking to your parents? Or you just dont want to at all?

Its not fair to ask your little sister to not show them, especially her being 14.

If you really dont want your parents seeing the photos, then set up a flicker account or a photo sharing account like that and just email your friends the link with all your photos - rather than having to email them all.

Not a nice situation to be in at all so I really hope you manage to come up with something your happy with.

Hugs hugs and more hugs!

Thanks guys!

It was the usual argument of throwing my past up at every oppurtunity, telling me what I am doing wrong, etc etc. It was the fact that they just didn't bother their backsides with their GD. Esp when my 1st daughter died and I honestly thought that it would have brought us all closer together, ah well!

Aliasmum, I'm leaning towards that myself. That way they can't say that I'm keeping their GD away from them. With DF's family, they live back in Scotland but when I do talk to my sister I do tell her that so and so has been in touch etc.

BooBoo, since I've been in NZ, nearly 3.5 years they have called us about 4 times! I was always the one calling them and emailing etc, I just got sick of being the one making all the effort! It was always one-sided.

AzzaNZ I'm orginally from Scotland, moved here in Oct 2005

Another option too is to set up a Facebook profile for your kids - I know lilfatty and SuperDaddy did that for wee Issy, so family across the world could see her progress. That way you can pick all your friends from your profile and then go nuts posting photos and not having to worry about constantly checking privacy settings.

You are all right! It is def their loss not mine, I'm just glad I don't have any negativity from them anymore!

Emz, that is a great idea! Off to go and set one up.....