My MIL & I were fairly close TILL I had kids! I always knew she was a controling person & always liked to get her way, but she made a real effort with me & we did have a good relationship. But I had a strong feeling that ONE DAY we would have a falling out due to her very strong-minded personality & noseyness in our lives.
The minute I fell pregnant with Rico she thought she could tell us what to do! We told her if it was a boy he'd be called Rico. She DID NOT like the name & later went to my DH & told him we shouldn't call him that. Then proceeded to come to me & suggest other names. She also wanted us to have a girl & was buying pink clothes! We didn't know the sex. She then asked if she could be at the hospital when I was in labour. NO WAY IN HELL!! When I straight out said NO, that noone would be there she went to DH & asked him! Thankfully we'd discussed it previously & so told her noone would be there but us two, & she moaned to him about it. The minute she knew we'd had Rico she was up at the hospital & stood at the end of the bed (I was trying to breast-feed him) & just steered at us & cried! I felt so uncomfortable having her steering at my breast! I ended up putting it away & passing Rico to her as I knew she wouldn't go til she'd held him. Honestly I could sooo go on about all the things she did & we had many an arguement after he was born. She could never see what she was like & always defended herself. Unfortunately DH didn't see my point of view either so we too had many arguements over HER!
Since having Gia I have relaxed a bit & she has compromised a bit too so get on much better, but if she ever crosses the line I WILL say something as if I didn't she'd think she could get away with it & do it again. Also to make things easier they moved to the the Sth Island so not seeing her has helped as well!! Although she rings most days just to speak to Rico, & in the 8 months she's been gone she's been up to stay twice & we've been to see them once.
I was exactly like you, would bottle things up instead of having my say or standing up for myself, but I've grown BALLS since having Rico!! This is my family - not hers & I have the final say on what goes. I hope you are able to talk to her & put her in her place at some stage even though she may not like it & it could cause tension, but she's the one causing you tension to begin with.
All the best!!
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...OH I could go on and on......but I wont. I get along with my MIL but tell her how it is, she likes it or not!!
. She was my MIL for only 1 week. We found out that she had cancer 1 week before our wedding, and was they said she might have a month left. She made it to the wedding - which was awesome. I was able to put some of my flowers from my wedding on her casket.
