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cuppatea 
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 Posted: 06 January 2009 at 8:30pm |
 kaiz231 wrote:
And what do you say when people say "It never hurt our babies" or "our kids turned out all right" ?
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I would say "are you sure about that?"
But seriously just say "well these days more is known about nutrition, dental decay, allergies, car safety, or whatever they are hounding you about"
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MrsMojo
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Posted: 06 January 2009 at 8:53pm |
kaiz231 wrote:
Oh yes, lollies are a problem for us too.
What did they feed babies in the olden days? Butter, cream and potatoes? Marshmallows for dessert?
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Funny you say that. I once asked my MIL whether she gave her kids sweets everyday and she was shocked at the thought "oh no, I would never give them sweets except on special occasions" was the answer She seemed to see the irony in that and temporarily was pretty good.
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Posted: 06 January 2009 at 8:55pm |
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Oh this topic brings back memories.....
last year when I was at my friends place for dinner my son started throwing a tantrum so i took him away from the table and let him know he was welcome back when he was ready to behave like the lovely big boy he was. Well my friends mother (who has bean an authority figure throughout my life) said out loud "listen he has finnished he can come back the poor wee boy...he just a little boy" and when DS came back in the room was questioning my authority in front of him. In front of everyone there (all of her family) i asked her politely but firmly not to question my authority in front of him again. She is more than welcome to speak to me when he is not around if she has concerns but never in front of him. Well she has not spoken to me since and was most offended.
MIL tried to give DS a biscuit after dinner when he had not finished his. I quickly pipped up with "now you know there is nothing else if you do not eat your dinner" MIL said "Oh but i have already said he could have it" i replied that she has dissapointed him then. i do have to admit though that my MIL is great and most of the time very respectful and always asks me first...now to get her to ask me when DH is not in earshot :o)
Good luck the rest of you remember polite but firm.
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lilfatty
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Posted: 06 January 2009 at 8:55pm |
I thought they couldnt afford sweets in the golden olden days .. surely .. they couldnt afford shoes and used to walk in the snow to school 
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Posted: 06 January 2009 at 8:58pm |
lilfatty wrote:
I thought they couldnt afford sweets in the golden olden days .. surely .. they couldnt afford shoes and used to walk in the snow to school |
Thats right. And they only got an apple for christmas, so DHs Grandfather tells me.
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Posted: 06 January 2009 at 9:22pm |
My grandma used to try to feed me honey and jam off a spoon because I looked so thin... hehe I still am 
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Posted: 06 January 2009 at 10:12pm |
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All HRV do is circulate air from your ceiling space into your home.....I'd tell MIL to read her manual before dishing out the "pros" of owning one!
The food thing........I'd probably say something dramatic like........sure you can give him that..but I'd say about in about 10 minutes we're gonna be needing an ambulance..being allergic and all.....Give them a fright!
And telling you Not to parent your child...........well I'd say..When you're ready to pay for all my child's need, future school fees, and pocket money, then maybe you can have a say in how I parent my child.
The cheek of some people!!
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Posted: 06 January 2009 at 10:40pm |
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Oh goodness me you girls have just cheered me up LOLOLOL!!!! My MIL is a classic too, she likes to take him from me without asking, is really quite rough with him (didnt hurt her boys) tries to feed him stuff when I'm not looking. I'm not going to post what I actually said to her as i'll get a ban, but it had a lot of *** ****** ***** etc :P Now she does what I want.
Honestly, god help anyone who gets in the way of parenting my child the way that I NEED TO in order to LEARN etc from my OWN mistakes and other random crap like that.
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Posted: 07 January 2009 at 9:25am |
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Ah, nice to know there are others out with with IL issues - reassuring I'm not the only one. Problem is, sometimes I wonder if I make it an issue cos they're ILs (ie if my family said the same thing, would I get annoyed) or is it really an issue.
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Posted: 07 January 2009 at 9:58am |
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I'm not looking forward to mine once bubs is here. Lucky we live so far away.
We got married last March. The grandfather told DH that he should have found a younger bride and that my friends and family were just there to free load for the day. Might I add that his side of the family didn't pay for anything and DH and I scrimped for months to pay for to Zoo which is what we dearly wanted.
Then the aunt got so drunk that she puked all through the toilets and the whole reception stunk of vomit......She's never apologised.
Lucky my FIL is sane and quite lovely but the rest can stick it up their butts. DH is well aware that I refuse to go back to their houses after those comments at our wedding. I wasn't even acknowldged at our wedding by the grandmother and she just sat in the corner and gave me nasty looks. They were also late to the ceremony so made ME wait at the top so they could go down in their own time. GGGRRRRRRR.......
Sorry, I know this isn't about parenting but can you imagine what they're going to be like? I guess i'm lucky they don't like me (cause i'm a whole 2 years older than DH and a normal kiwi girl and not the trophy bride they thought he should have) so I don't have to worry about offending them. If they do or say anything I don't like then I'm just going to tell them straight.
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Posted: 07 January 2009 at 9:59am |
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Oh, and all the lollies DO make a difference. I'm still having fillings ripped out and replaced. About 8 so far all originally from when I was a kid.
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Posted: 07 January 2009 at 10:35am |
OMG you've gotta love In laws! I do not like mine either.
I felt I had to prove to them while we were in Akld last week that my DD had really bad Chicken pox & that was why we couldn't see them, not my fault that none of them had had them.
We made it clear that the only day we could see them was one particular day & then on the last day MIL was crying on the phone saying DH hated her cause we didn't see them on any other day. WTF  DH said we should have never told them that we were going up there.
Sorry that was an inlaw vent. I absolutely hate people correcting my parenting. I do not allow DD to have lollies etc as a rule as I am the one that has to deal with the sugar high not them & now I tell people that. You need to put across or get your DH to put across that what you two say goes.
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