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Shezamumof3 
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 Posted: 23 February 2008 at 3:19pm |
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Sheza I often sleep with Isabelle ... she starts out on my chest ... then when she drifts off I put her in the crook of my arm however it means I sleep without blankets so I dont accidentally put them over her little head....when I was in the hospital after my c section the nurses always put her in bed with me as she wouldnt sleep anywhere else.
Now I only co-sleep when she wont settle any other way ... and at this point in time ... I will get her to sleep anyway I can 
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Fair enough Julia.  I can understand that!
I have no idea about all this baby stuff lol, I was just always told never sleep in the same bed as your baby etc. But its good to know what all of you ladies do with your babies, will help me for when my lil boy is here.
Im not judging anyone just so you know I just always thought ti wasnt allowed thats all. I like reading stuff like this
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Bizzy
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Posted: 23 February 2008 at 3:29pm |
thats twice now sheza you have said "not allowed". It made me giggle when i first read it and wondered who was going to stop us from co sleeping - the sleep police...??!! LOL!
Oh and this isnt meant as a crack at anyone it just made me giggle is all... 
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Posted: 23 February 2008 at 4:57pm |
Sheza ... in all fairness before Isabelle I never thought I would sleep with a baby as I had also read that you shouldnt and I thought I would squash her ... but Ive found that when you have a newborn, you will basically do anything to get the little bundle of joy to sleep
Luckily apart from being a tad fat from pregnancy, I didnt have any of the other contraindicators (sp)
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Posted: 23 February 2008 at 5:22pm |
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When Phoenix will not sleep in his cot, he will co-sleep with us. He is in the middle of Dad and I, but in the crook of my arm, and away from the dangers of the big duvet. Usually I let him sleep there for 30 mins to an hour, and then I put him in his cot, and he is usually fine.
During the day, we nap together in the big bed. He has more space but close enough to mum. That way I can read my book and keep an eye on him.
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Posted: 23 February 2008 at 7:26pm |
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lilfatty..yeah i wish mine had sides...as you say you do whatever you have too... i totally get that!:)
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Posted: 23 February 2008 at 7:29pm |
GandT wrote:
thats twice now sheza you have said "not allowed". It made me giggle when i first read it and wondered who was going to stop us from co sleeping - the sleep police...??!! LOL!
Oh and this isnt meant as a crack at anyone it just made me giggle is all... |
Sorry just didnt know how else to word it...  I meant I didnt think you were supposed to do it..
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Posted: 23 February 2008 at 7:33pm |
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Hey Sheza - co-sleeping is about as old as time. It is how babies in most cultures sleep. Only in the western world in the last 150 years or so have we be discouraged from co-sleeping - instead we make parents buy lots of expensive itmes that keep mums and babies separated.
If I was a baby I would know how I would want to sleep!
I too thought it was NOT ALLLOWED when I had my fist - but now onto number three I don't buy any of that BS.
I sleep with my baby every night. He starts out in his own cot (nest to ours) so we get an evening together but from his first wake he comes in with me and stays there until the morning. I love waking up to his beautiful smile staring at me.
I have a safety first bed rail that goes on the side of the bed so that when he is on that side he won't fall out, and when he is between me and DH there is no worries. I have seen those sidecots and they look great for people that need a bit of separation between them and babe but still want to sleep together.
Also has anyone heard of the latest research that suggests that co-sleeping if done safely can help prevent cot death - and by that they mean no just bed sharing but having the baby in your room for the first year. I was reading this on the Dr Sears website.
Anyway - *hippie mama out*
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Posted: 23 February 2008 at 7:44pm |
"hippy mama" is the cot pushed up to your bed with the side down? so that its an extension of your bed?
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Posted: 23 February 2008 at 7:46pm |
I've actually read that some studies find co sleeping reduces the risk of cot death but as someone said you have strict guidlines.
I didnt think I would ever do it and I was scared when the midwife in hospital suggested tucking him in with me one night when he wouldnt settle. In the end I did it and it was lovely.
I still do it from time to time when he wont settle and I am buggered...usually it goes nicely with a lazy feed. If DH is in bed and we are wanting to sleep I put him on the outside and I shuffle into the middle of the bed...DH gets shoved over (and the little one said rollover) I pull the sheet up over us and when he was really little I would tuck the sheet under him so if he rolled his weight would hold the sheet and him on the bed. I never use the duvet past about my waist and I put him up quite high. I also have an arm over his tummy.
We have the memory foam pillows so they arent fluffy and dont move around the bed so sometimes I move our pillows right apart and sit Tom in the middle of them.
Now that he is moving it doesnt always work well but if he wakes too early and wont settle DH brings him into me, I pop out a boob and go back to sleep...so does TOm.
It is really a lovely thing to do and not scary at all.
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Posted: 23 February 2008 at 8:37pm |
They are looking more into the benefits of co-sleeping and some studies have shown that it can reduce the risk of cot death. Apparently having having another person nearby helps baby not to fall into that deep sleep that they go into when SIDS happens.
Other benefits are that it is easier to settle a baby when you are right there rather than having to get up so everyone gets more sleep. If you're breast feeding it is alot quicker and easier to feed a baby that is right there- and if you can master feeding lying down you can drop right back off once baby has latched on.
There are pretty strict guidelines that go with it though.
Both parents have to be non-smokers.
Neither parents can have consumed ANY alcohol or drugs (including prescription or over the counter drugs as they make affect awareness)
Have a safety rail on the side of the bed.
Only blankets, no duvets or quilts.
I co-slept with Kate for the first couple of months- certainly helped me get more sleep in those early days than I did with Charlotte. I think you also need to judge what kind of sleepers you are. If you know that you or DH are really deep sleepers or thrash around alot you may want to look into something like this-
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Posted: 23 February 2008 at 8:48pm |
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One of the first things the midwives in the hospital did when DD was first born was to put her in bed with me - it was a wonderful first night!
We kind of co-slept, had the bassinette right next to the bed for the first four months or so, and often brought her in with us. Took all the precautions and it often meant a longer sleep for her and more rest for me. I couldn't get a hang of the feeding lying down for months though, so found that hard. Am hoping to get onto it earlier with the next baby.
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Posted: 23 February 2008 at 8:52pm |
i learnt by neccesity as my c section made lying down to feed the only option for awhile
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Posted: 23 February 2008 at 9:01pm |
It's a great skill to have! Will be interested to hear if you buy a side cot, let us know what you decide to do
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Posted: 23 February 2008 at 9:13pm |
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Hey lilfatty - Nope - the cot is just next to the bed and then I get him out and pop him in with us - I have a safety rail on my bed to prevent falls when he is with us.
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Posted: 24 February 2008 at 1:18pm |
They put josh in the bed with me in hospital too the nurse said not to worry mothers have a 6th sense and dont roll on them which i believe as i was dreaming Josh was in bed with me one night and DP started to roll and my hand was up stopping him and i was talking angrily to him before i had even woken up properly. I felt like a bit of a dick when i realised i had put Josh back in his bassinette that night tho hahaha im pretty sure DP was too tired to realise although i think i did it to him twice that night.
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Posted: 25 February 2008 at 9:20am |
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I co-slept with Michaela. I didn't want to initially (because I didn't want her to still be in my bed as a small child) but after a couple of weeks of only getting sleep in 1.5 hour blocks I conceded. The fact is she was just happier being cuddled (you may feel the same way when given the option of sleeping with your partner or without). These little people go from being completely enveloped in their mothers warm womb to being in the cold noisy scary outside world, who can blame them for wanting to snuggle next to their mums?
It's also pretty comforting for you to feel your baby's warm breath against your skin and know undoubtedly that they're ok.
One of the best things I learnt was how to get Michaela latched while lying side by side so I barely had to wake up to feed her and I would fall asleep pretty quickly while she was feeding.
Once she was older and no longer feeding at night it only took 3 nights to get her used to staying in her own cot all night so my fears that I'd be sleeping with her forever were unfounded and I'll definitely have no qualms about co-sleeping next time around.
As 3boys said co-sleeping is as old as time and completely natural in most societies. A sober person is about as likely to roll onto their baby as they are to roll ontop of a cat without noticing - it'd be pretty difficult.
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