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MyMinis
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Posted: 15 December 2006 at 10:30am |
I havent been through a m/c myseelf, but I have friends who ahve gone through it, some who have coped better than others.
To me its not wierd, I know I probably would think the same thing if I m/c.
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Two Blondinis
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Posted: 15 December 2006 at 6:58pm |
just a thought, but if it is still an issue (I hate that word, but can't think of a better one at this stage) perhaps you would benefit from some grief counselling?
Whatever will help you deal with your loss *hugs*
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Maya
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Posted: 16 December 2006 at 9:25pm |
I know what you mean Robyn - a friend and I were due two weeks apart and when I first came back from Australia after I m/c I avoided her for a while. But I had to bite the bullet eventually and I went to see her and we talked about how I was feeling and I had a bit of a cry and felt much better about it.
Of course by the time our EDD came around I was significantly pregnant with the twins, but I did go thru a huge time of anxiety and got quite morbid and depressed and worried about losing the twins as well. We still haven't even buried our baby because I was too frightened to do it while I was preg with the twins in case I jinxed us, and haven't had a chance to do it since.
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busymum
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Posted: 16 December 2006 at 10:04pm |
Even though I m/c at only 2 weeks (so hadn't even tested) I still had a rough idea of when "she" would have been due and when that time came, I thought about her quite a bit. Why wasn't her pregnancy to be etc? And what would it have been like if I had had a baby at that time (October). I think I'll always remember her "birth"-day, as in the day she was "born".
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Carmel
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Posted: 18 December 2006 at 2:00pm |
I also planted a rose for our lost lottle one and it was supposed to be white but flowered pink instead so I like to think our bubba would have been a girl and every time I look out the window I can see it
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my2angels
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Posted: 18 December 2006 at 3:03pm |
My friend brought me a rose bush and I planted the twins in that. I think the hospital thought it was strange that I wanted to take them home. I hated the way the hospital call them 'unwanted products of conception' thats a horrible term for it.
Thanks Toni, I guess its not such an issue (yeah it is a horrible way of talking about it aye) anymore just more been on my mind a bit lately and I just wondered if anyone else thought of thier m/c as a baby. I also feel that from conception its a baby but was just hoping i wasnt being a bit weird about it.
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Andie
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Posted: 18 December 2006 at 3:47pm |
Not weird in the slightest. I can't believe that's what the hospital called your babies - that's so insensitive! I think it's lovely that you took them home and have a rosebush for them - good on you.
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busymum
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Posted: 18 December 2006 at 7:01pm |
Mine were called "spontaneous abortion"
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