Let’s make a stand

Ok I am not the best at atriculating myself in writting, but need to say this in light of recent post's and also some recent thing's that have happened in my own personal life so here goes.
why is it that we as Mum's are made to feel like we need to justify our parenting desion's/styles etc to other's espically stranger's. Some of us FF some of us BF some of us use daycare and work full time some chose to stay home, some want big families some one child is enough. I am sick of people thinking they know best for my family and my frined's families so I prupose the next time someone question's us on our pictular desion's / or styles of parenting especially stranger's we use a great answer "Cause I/we have want too" no great explination needed at the end of the day if we are bringing up happy healthy children who are going to contribute positively to scoiety wether they be BF, FF in child carecare etc then what is the big deal. So next time some so called well meaning person feel's the need to commment just say "cause I want too" or "its none of your darn bisness".
So hopefully this comes across the way it is intended.
ETA:bad spelling.

Edited by ButterflyMum

I know how you feel Deb. I am being asked when I am going back to work and when I reply I am studying I get strange looks like someone my age shouldn't be studying  i'm only 26.

Did she say you were mad as in a you're mad why six kids in a joking way???

I remember 4 years ago when Andrew went onto formula I felt like a right royal usless mum coz I couldn't BF, now I am so over it and don't care what people say.

Mum2Lucas wrote: Oh I couldn't agree more ButterflyMum (do you have a name you'd rather me refer to you by?)

yes, she would prefer you to call her Princess Conzuela Banana Hammock .....

anyway , I fully agree BBM , some people have too much time on their hands and judge too quickly .
People should live their lives and let others live theirs.

Classic example, my friend tried BF for a week , couldn't do it , gave up, fine, she gave it ago , whatever big deal it wasn't for her, but my goodness "oh she only gave up cos she wants to drink" and "you know formula isnt as good as BM for your baby etc "......well, then she died suddenly (as most of you know) 2 weeks later....and it suddenly went to "wasnt it lucky she had stopped breastfeeding ?"
There is just no pleasing some people,your damned if you do, and damned if you dont

When I was strugging to b/f I received lots of comments like that...but the 2 that felt like they were kicking me whilst I was down...from a lactation consultant at Birthcare "Its such a shame that you have given him forumla, he is going to get allergies and asthma now" and the other from a complete stranger in a parents room "gosh your baby is a bit little to be on the bottle isnt he?". Arghhhhhh!!!! In hindisght I wish I had told them both where to go...

Oops... I read on and you made my point as well.

I agree that there are many times that people say things that are stupid and can be hurtful (a few examples have been given above) and often they can be reworded or just not said at all. I'm totally for taking a stand against that but as far as people giving their own opinions, isn't the whole point of posting to get other peoples opinions? I'd be really disappointed if I posted an issue and told people what I'd tried and everyone just agreed with me without giving me any other ideas or options for fear of upsetting me - do you see what I mean? There's no need to be nasty or make controversial statements that will get other peoples backs up but if we can't provide creative feedback and speak up when there is something upsetting us how on earth are we going to be a supportive community?

Do I make any sense whatsoever?

MrsMojo wrote: I agree that there are many times that people say things that are stupid and can be hurtful (a few examples have been given above) and often they can be reworded or just not said at all. I'm totally for taking a stand against that but as far as people giving their own opinions, isn't the whole point of posting to get other peoples opinions? I'd be really disappointed if I posted an issue and told people what I'd tried and everyone just agreed with me without giving me any other ideas or options for fear of upsetting me - do you see what I mean? There's no need to be nasty or make controversial statements that will get other peoples backs up but if we can't provide creative feedback and speak up when there is something upsetting us how on earth are we going to be a supportive community? Do I make any sense whatsoever?

Yip I agree, as long as its not a personal attack I think its important for debate. I've learnt a lot from the disagreements on here. Remember facts are different from opinions so just because you don't like it doesn't mean its not true.