Need advice for a friend (very complex)

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   Before you read this. It's terribly complex so its pretty long.

My friend D is being blackmailed and she has no idea what to do. That's the short of it anyway.

Now for the longer version..

My old best mate H is D's older sis. D ran away from home and went and lived with H. H got preggers when she was 19 to this low life. She never really outright said but I don't believe she consented to sex with him.  I just got that feeling from things she said to me and the way she spoke about him etc. H ended up getting a restraining order against this guy. She never told him she was preggers.

H had a lot of health issues and was fairly well off so she moved over to Hawaii when she was about 5 months preggers because she wanted to get away from a lot of things. D went with her. H's health suffered  greatly throughout the pregnancy, the meds she really needed to take she wouldn't take them due to the risks to the baby. She had A, A was sooo cute.. anyways H ended up passing away when A was only 4 months old. D (she almost 17 at the time) decided she was going to raise A. H had left everything to D so she had everything she would need to do it well. 

D had started developing a relationship with Nat while living back in NZ and D missed Nat terribly while in Hawaii and they decided together that D and A were going to come back to NZ and they would have a real go at the relationship. And as a little side note. Nat is a chick, so lesbian relationship.

D moved back, her and Nat really fell for each other and were living together, got engaged etc. They are the best couple ever. A is doing wonderfully etc.

Nat got offered a fantastic career opportunity in the USA (California) so all 3 moved over there and they have lived there about 6 months now. 

A is now 3. So has been living under D's care for 2 and 1/2 yrs now.

Now for the crap..

The low life has found out about A. He's also found out that D and A inherited a fair amount from H. He's blackmailing D telling her that if she doesnt pay him a certain amount of money that he is gonna go for custody and have her up on kidnapping. And he's smart enough to say it verbally rather than writing it to her so she has no proof that this is what he is doing.

I have no idea what to tell her. I don't think the kidnapping thing would actually get anywhere because it was decided between H and D that A go to D. However, I have no clue about the custody thing... 

She's seeking advice on Monday from a lawyer but in the mean time is stressing out big time. The only helpful thing I could say is make sure if he calls her that the conversation is recorded  but I really don't know what else to tell her 