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thanks guys, yea i still feel really weird bou tit coz as susie can probably agree, it's ot like i have put full on details about our marriage situation. and i did pm another lady int eh forum to ask advice. but yea, who knows who lurks right? I just find it weird becuase i think of the few people that know me at church & it scares me to think who it could have been. Sadly it meant that at MM yesterday i was uite reserve as i'm almost too scared to talk to ppl IRL now!


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Don't be scared of me Chonny! I have noooo idea what/who you are talking about, I barely have time to follow my own threads these days let alone anyone else's so I am blissfully ignorant to what is going on! Sucks that this has happened to you tho

I have to agree with those who have said a restricted section could be divisive, and I don't think it is necessarily any more secure than the general boards as we have neither the time nor the resources to police it so it would still be possible for people to spam to get their post counts up the same way people do to get access to the photo gallery.
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Interesting thread...

I have to admit....I am more of a lurker than anything else I don't post often, because I just don't have as much to say as some of you. I have however given my two cents worth when I think I have something valuable to offer and not just hugs and smiley faces etc (no offence). I have also got some really valuable advice for some of the questions I have posted and also by reading posts which are a similar position to mine.
I am also quite wary about my privacy, so I haven't really posted any pics (apart from a faceless preggy belly) :-) But if anyone is curious, I would happily email :o) + Im not all that computer savy and it seems to take forever and a lot of fiddling around to post pics
I really enjoy reading about everyone and feel like I know alot of you well. A restricted section I think would segregate the "community". I do think that some of you should be more careful about what you are writing about though as some has been rather sensitive issues An anon posting would perhaps be an idea also.
I also get quite a giggle when the cat fights happen..... Again, without trying to offend anyone, some have needed to 'get a life' outside of cyberspace....it is after all a internet forum where anyone can sign up and participate with their opinions. It is easy to read things out of context on a forum or in an email.

It sounds to me like lots of people would like/need a chat room for when they want to "vent" whatever it is thats bothering them.
Personally, I would never repeat anything on here (except to DH) because I see it is sort of a 'coffee group' so to speak. I wouldn't do it IRL so why do it here. I actually don't know any of you IRL anyway...

Give the 'lurkers' a wee bit of a break. I come on this site at least once a day for a quick peek at whats happening and have got some great ideas, recepies and even purchased a few things of different people on here.
Oh and another thing.....I have found that the ones that post alot, seem to get alot more replies on their questions than us lurkers. It seems our unknown names don't attract as many opinions.


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JD, i totally understand where you coming from. i don't think we are trying to alienate the lurkers, but it's just kind of a bit scary to some of us that's all.

And just wanted to say, the reason i had posted about some stuff, was coz i'm one of these people that actually eneds the hugs & smileys. It just makes me feel a lil bit better


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JD - I was a lurker mostly for the first 6 months I was on ohb, so totally understand why people lurk

I agree with you totally that how many responses people get to posts seems to be quite dependant on who is asking something which is really sad. I did a little test for myself and watched some new posts show up one day and guessed how many replies each would get, and I was generally bang on.
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I was a lurker too, for a long time before I posted, while I was pregnant with DD1. So I have nothing against lurkers. JD, I understand what you're saying about giving them a break.

With the people who post a lot getting more replies to questions than someone who is relatively new, I know it can be a bit off-putting, but I don't think anyone gets no responses (unless no-one has any info or it's a question no-one can answer). I used to be a bit about this exact thing on another forum, but when I brought it up I got a very good perspective on it. A forum is a community and you get out what you put in - I think you'll find that those who post a lot are often the first to answer a newbie's questions, and they have a lot of friends on here so it's only natural that they get more replies than someone who doesn't spend a lot of active time on here.

ETA: What's the 'recent event' that everyone keeps talking about? Can someone PM me and enlighten me?

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Good point on the 'get out what you put in' comment Mazzy. I actually get a lot more out of this site than what I put in, so Im not complaining :o)
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Its not a 'recent event'. This is a old thread that has been dragged up from last year.
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I think there are a lot of us TTC and waiting to TTC ladies that lurk in the pregnancy/baby/toddler forums. I know I do, because although I don't have any experience or advice to offer in most cases, its kind of a way of finding out what I might be in for later, if you get what I mean? I'm sure I'll post more once I have something to contribute, but I hope people don't mind the lurking in the mean time
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