We are very much a partnership - we both recognise that we bring different things into the relationship. DH is great at 'helping' me when he realises that I am not coping or finding something physically challenging, like at the moment I cant unload the drier (find the bending down hurts my back), so he is proactive about doing things like that to help.
DH works prettty hard at the moment (building our future), so I am conscious that I need to be as supportive as possible, even though I sometimes get grumpy that he works too much! I know that its about being part of a team, rather than each of us 'marching to our drum'. 