Expectations of DH / DP post baby

I am interested to know if your expectations on your DH / DP changed after you had a child together.

Before we had a baby, we were a fairly equal partnership....we had a cleaner, but I had always done the cooking & washing...but he took care of the gardening. We used to split our "social" time 50/50 as well, doing stuff with mutual friends as well as stuff I enjoyed and stuff he enjoyed. We werent worried about being home from work at a set time and would eat out a lot. We also didnt mind if the other one was working late etc.

I guess now that I am a SAHM my expectations of DH have changed a little. We no longer have a cleaner, so I am respsonsible for all the housework, cooking, washing etc....I dont ask him to do anything apart from vacuum...which he does once every 3 weeks (if I nag him!!). I do however expect him to try and get home from work before 6, so that he can help with bath / bed time routine, I also expect that on a weekend he makes "family time"....I also expect him to be able to make basic decisions about looking after Oli (like what to feed him, dress him in etc).

Did your expectations on each other change a lot after you had a baby?

Yes my expections and our plan for who who do what once we had Isla, and what it was like pre-Isla is completely different!

Sam when I read that u expect your DH to make decisions about what to feed/dress Oli,...I cracked up! DH hasnt made one desicion like that ever I dont recall! I would love him too, but its just the way things have worked out.

Things changed most when Isla turned one- we moved towns and in DHs new job here he works an extra 1 1/2 hrs per day and also works sat, so thats quite a bit more hours than he was working. He used to be home from work at 3.45pm, and now its 5.15pm,....so now I cook Islas dinner, feed her, cook our dinner -which he used to help with all that, or at least look after her while I did it.

When preg we planned that we would share the caring for Islajpy a lot more than what has happened in reality,..also DH wanted to be SAHD,..but now hes like NO WAY- its way easier to work!

I hope he stays over to help you sometimes Emma

Yep my expectations at first changed much like you, SimSam. After having #2, he reeeeeally needed to step up!