New baby envy...

hello!!! heres how i have found it your gap about 3.5 years?
jade and kayla are 3 years 10 monthish apart- same sex (obviously!!) and jade is FANTASTIC with kayla always has been. she is a great sister who loves to help out.
i think there will always be jealousy to some point any attention taken away from a child will make for a little jealousy only natural- but if you can just spend one on one time with bailey it helps a lot, i think they do understand that there is love to share from mummmy and new baby
i dont know if jade having emma in between helped jade beas accepting? maybe?
I'm sure he will be fine- hey a little bro would be cool for bailey

There is 2 years and 10 months between Andrew and Josh. Andrew at first yes was a little jealous but that lasted about 3 days and then he was fine with him. He is my "helper boy" and gets the wipes and nappies for me when I change Josh's nappy in the lounge. He is very caring with Josh and when he cries he snuggles up to him and says "its ok little boy" its very cute. If anything Andrew doesn't like to share Josh with his Grandad (my dad).

i always thought i was had a closer bond with jade- i dont know why? but i dont, if that makes sense?!!! all 3 girls are sooooooooo different that there are things about each that are really special and have different reasons why i am "drawn" to them.
jade is a very caring girl, emma has so much life/energy oooh her smiles and cuddles melt me and kayla she is still so little but i love her smiles and cheekiness, and at the mo her innocence!!! lol.

you didnt sound horrible either by the way- normal feelings to have. im sure that things will be great.
even if you do find youself with more of a bond for astin there will always be things about bailey which make him just as special and you cant take that away.

Hi Baysmum, before I had Briona I struggled with the same jealousy/fair attention -type concerns that you are right now. My biggest question was, I know Hannah so well but will I ever be able to love baby #2 as much? After Briona was born, it took a little while (couple of months) but one day I suddenly realised that I did love her just as much but it was expressed very differently, they are quite different little kiddies.

I still sometimes wonder about their perception, Briona likes more cuddles and Hannah prefers to do things together or chat. So I sometimes wonder if Hannah feels left out of cuddles or vice versa. But I guess that's just one of the things that goes on when you're a mummy and trying to be the best you can for your kiddies.

baysmum wrote: My DHs family think that Bay isnt going to handle having a brother and that he wouldve been better off with a sister due to jelousy issue!!

Oh sorry family-in-law, but we didn't exactly *try* to have a second boy!!!!!

Ok I have a question on the similar line.

I am planning to start trying Aug/Sep this year, and if all goes well then I would have another baby Mid next year.

Here is the thing: I go to Zaara's day care every lunch time to B/Feed her and there are many kids there who come up to me and want me to pick them up or come up to me and just sit on my lap etc....Zaara just hates that. she screams MINE....and pushes the kids away. She also starts wingging untill I put the other child down.

Is she going to be the same when I have my next? She would be 2years + by then. I am starting to worry.

Thats a good idea mummybecks because Bay already loves building and digging outside with dadda and then i go out once iv done the housework (whatever it is as there is always something!!) and Bay and i feed the chicken so maybe i can substitute the housework for feeding Astin and Bay will be none the wiser

Teresa, I was thinking that I will involve her but man she is such a jelous type, it scares me at times. Even my Hubby mentioned to me that she reacted the same was hen he picked up one of our friends new baby......hmmm...he is worried too.

Oh well I guess we will see when the time comes. I am hoping that because she will be a bt older and more understanding (she understands alot now) that I can prepare her from the beginning.

Here is hoping!

Awww...so cute!!

I sure hope that this will be the case with us too.....

I had a friend whos first born picked up the new born and placed it in the rubbish bin (because he didnt want a new baby!!) I'd hate to fish my child out of rubbish bins...LOL

Eek Roksana, that's not very nice! I'm sure Zaara will cope fine, Maya was/is totally besotted with her baby sisters.

We did have a few 'adjustment' issues, not jealousy so much as attention-seeking behaviour which I think was fair enough given that the gremlins quite literally wreaked havoc on poor Maya's life from the day they were conceived. I remember lying at Birthcare almost resenting the babies for taking me away from Maya.

I've also worried about loving one or other of the girls better or more than the others, but I've discovered that all three of them need very different things from me, and that I love them all equally, but in their own way. Maya is so much like me in that she is bright and independent and creative. Sienna is my wee entertainer, she commands an audience and attention whatever she does. And Mercedes is quite emotionally needy, she's my snugglebunny and needs constant reassurance that I'm here and I love her.

You'll find your own rythym once wee Astin arrives, and then you'll be offering advice to other soon-to-be second time round Mums, coz its a worry we all have!