Would it be ok

Kelly - if it's important to you then definately mention it.

we had a candle ceremony sort of.. at the beginning of the ceremony, my mum and my dad both lit a candle either side of a candleabra and the minister said about absent family members - specifically my two grandfathers who had passed away last november and august. we then later used those two candles half way through the ceremony and each grabbed one and lit the middle candle talking about unity etc. It made things very special and i felt that i needed to have mentioned my grandfathers as both were alive when we originally started planning our wedding, and had we not had to postpone it both would have been present for our day.

but yeah the toast for absent friends is also a good time to mention them too.

oooh and GOOOD LUCK!

We had a remembrance candle that was lit at the beginning of our service in symbol of all the people who couldn't make it, as MIL had passed away and my family from Scotland couldn't make it (which was mentioned before we lit the candle). The candle was lit at the beginning of the service and sat alight up at the head table with us through the reception and dance. Sort of like their presence being like a burning flame.