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ElfsMum 
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 Posted: 07 November 2007 at 8:32am |
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I just wanted to say I am due to have my first baby in Fb..and even I am not this insensitive... i think esp after what she did at your shower(boy has she got a shock coming with a baby) it's not right...I wouldn't go.
I am having my shower in two weeks and I asked that the older children (5-10) don't come.. there are two breastfeeding mothers who will probably both bring their babies and that is fine with me(and one who is not but she is leaving baby with husband) ..very rude of me to even suggest not too.. !!!:( But i guess I have had a lot of attention this pregnancy and know i will still get a lot during the shower so that's not an issue but boy would I be wild if i was invited without my breastfeed baby:(
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Bobbie
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Posted: 07 November 2007 at 8:49am |
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I think Katherine might be on to something and you cousin might want it to be 'her day' without it being side-railed by a cute baby. However, having said that if it were me and someone really wanted to bring their baby I wouldn't press it because obviously they wouldn't push the matter if it wasn't important to them.
And given she brought her partner to yours and you don't feel comfortable leaving Ollie for that period (which is perfectly reasonable)I think you are justified in wanting him there.
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Andie
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Posted: 07 November 2007 at 9:57am |
I don't think it's a tricky situation at all, I think it just seems incredibly tricky when you're stuck in the middle of it. While I can understand all the focus of attention stuff and all, at the end of the day it's no big deal to take your baby to a baby-shower! She just needs to get over that and be a grown-up about it. In my books, babies are welcome at baby-showers, but guys aren't unless it's a couples thing rather than a girly event. And I don't think it's fair of your family to tell you what to do about it either - make up your own mind about what to do, and stick to it, because maybe it's more important that you get to make this choice yourself (whatever you choose - it's not like one choice is great and the other terrible, they both look perfectly reasonable to me), rather than have your family do it for you and tell you what you'll be doing on the day!
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Jennz
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Posted: 07 November 2007 at 10:09am |
Haha turn up 2 hours late with Ollie!
Sorry not much help  Personally I would just not go.
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yummymummy
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Posted: 07 November 2007 at 2:21pm |
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I'd say go with what you feel is right. If you don't feel good about leaving Ollie at home, then just don't go - you don't have to.
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Bombshell
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Posted: 07 November 2007 at 2:57pm |
sounds like you have an interesting decision to make....
have to say I leave Ella all the time...BAD MUMMY!!! LOL but even at my Babyshower...and you know it WAS ALL ABOUT ME we had a bubba come and had preggy bellies...and still I had fantastic time (aye SB and Rackhell??)...
Im with the girls - dont go OR go ahead and take him
Katherine - i do understand your situation...esp after meeting some of your family...BIG HUGS to you always!!! 
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Posted: 07 November 2007 at 3:50pm |
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I wasnt comfortable to leave bubs with anyone in the beginning. I had even a hard time leaving her for the night for the girls night out (thanks Emma and Kellz for helping me that night) and that is with her dad. No problem during the day but had trouble at night as she is really clingy to me and dont like the idea of her crying if I am not there.
If you personally dont want to leave him then I will just let her know that. If she throws a fit or something just say calmly that you totally understand and that the day should be all about her but that you unfortanately cant come then and leave it at that.
Or make up an excuse if you dont want too.
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emmapea
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Posted: 08 November 2007 at 10:20am |
Aw... you girls have really cheered me up. Think I was just already feeling low, and to have this sprung on me when I was feeling so crap just didnt help. Turns out I think my mum planned to meet up with my aunty to secretly try and sort it without me knowing... so actually I think my mum agrees with me. But I dont really care anymore... I have decided not to go, unless they change their mind about it and ask me nicely to come with Ollie! he hee hee. But I have stopped stressing about it and thats the main thing! 
Oh and apparently my cousin and aunty have just had a huge falling out with 2 people that would have been coming to the baby shower (but arent now!)... so if they still stick to the 'there's no room at the baby shower' thing well they are totally lying!
Thanks again! What a great bunch of girls (oh and I suppose there are guys are out there too?!)
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emmapea
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Posted: 08 November 2007 at 10:22am |
oh and... this child is a well over due welcomed first grangchld on that side so everyone is VERY excited about it and has my cousin has had LOTS of attention throughout this pregnancy... so I dont really think she has been lacking in the attention department... or maybe thats the problem?! she is just so used to the attention?!
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Posted: 08 November 2007 at 10:24am |
Ooo Im nearly over half way to my 100 posts... I might get to see all the photos sometime soon?!
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Comfortable with leaving baby?
