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caliandjack 
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 Posted: 09 November 2009 at 11:07am |
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I'd do it in a heart beat, financial security is fairly important to me I enjoy going out to work and DH would be great at home, this may happen in the future when I've completed my degree and DH has done his time with the Airforce. DH is much better at doing housework than me.
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Treen
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Posted: 09 November 2009 at 12:26pm |
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I would!
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ohanlon82
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Posted: 09 November 2009 at 12:33pm |
Yip i totally would.. If it meant we would be better off.. and i have full faith in DH
DH earns alot more for me so we always said the person that earns the most will go to work..
YAY for DH 
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jazzy
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Posted: 09 November 2009 at 1:46pm |
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If that's what you want go for it.
I would not as my DH has spent years doing & upgrading his qualifications while working, so in a few years all that hard work will pay off. Besides don't think he would get mush else done & he is not the best when the kids are sick so I would end up taking time off work for that as I did in the past.
If I was to get a job, then the kids would have to go to daycare/after school care, & I would only go back to work for more money before my youngest is at school.
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MrsMojo
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Posted: 09 November 2009 at 2:19pm |
For me it depends on what you mean by "a lot more".
My salary is over $10k higher than DH's but material things are a lot less important to me than time with my kids. This means we've had to tighten our belts signifcantly because we're currently earning less than 1/2 what we're used to but it's good practice for us.
DH was an excellent sahd to our dd (he even coped beautifully working fulltime while still being the main caregiver, he just skipped sleeping) so his ability to be the nurturer and house keeper didn't come into the equation, when i do go back to work part time next July i have no qualms leaving him with the kids.
Quite basically it broke my heart to leave my dd as a baby and go back to work fulltime and we agreed it wouldn't happen again.
Additionally while i currently earn more DH has higher earning potential. He's going places whereas my job isn't, there's nowhere to move to and i already earn 120% of the mean salary for my role (of course i'm worth every penny plus some ).
So someone would need to offer me a heck of a lot of cash before we'd consider switching roles but i'm happy to job share with DH and that's the longterm plan.
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nictoddie
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Posted: 09 November 2009 at 5:28pm |
Thanks so much for your replies good to hear of those that are doing it and it is working, It's not so much material things but just getting by in life, Dh has no quals and works in the cleaning industry so we just get by , I have management exp in retail and other areas and earning potential is alot more than cleaners wages, the position I have applied for is and op managers job and hours of work are 3am to midday so will still get plenty of time with the kids and dh could easily get a part time night job if need be for his own sanity will see if I get it and go from there And I think he would be great he really only has mr 10 months to look after and the school and kindy drop offs as I would be home for pick ups
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MrsMojo
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Posted: 09 November 2009 at 6:15pm |
Nic my DH and i both worked and stilll managed to keep DD out of care. My hours were 7:30am-3:30pm and DH worked 4pm - 10pm. He looked after DD during the day then passed her to me on the way to work and i took her home.
We barely saw each other but it worked really well.
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nictoddie
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Posted: 09 November 2009 at 6:18pm |
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Thanks mrs mojo
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lizzle
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Posted: 09 November 2009 at 6:40pm |
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I would. But in my job, i can bascially flit in and out and i know there will (nearly always) be a position for me. For Dh, leaving work would mean he may struggle to another position later on.
So while I earn about...$10K more, it would be easier for me to take time off than him.
In saying that, DH would be a fab SAHM. the kids would get so much attention and adore it....the dishes and washing, perhaps NOT so much attention however!
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HoneybunsMa
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Posted: 10 November 2009 at 3:39pm |
DP made noises about staying at home when we first found out we were preggers. He earns too much for it to be viable, BUT he would be useless at being a sahd he gets bored far too easily and gets grumpy when he doesn't get his way, PLUS he isn't patient enough and growls her off for crying because she is hungry.
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kiwisj
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Posted: 10 November 2009 at 3:59pm |
My DH reckons he would do it in a hearbeat and I would love for it to be an option for us. Unfortunately here it is not (I can't work full time here without jumping through lots of hoops and would get sh*te pay), but it would be a possibility back home. However my DH earns WAY more than I ever will so it would be quite a lifestyle change for us all - one I am quite prepared to try, but DH not so much apparently.
If it will work for you guys I would go for it!! Specially if your DH is keen to do a good job of being the SAHP 
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kellie
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Posted: 10 November 2009 at 4:03pm |
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Well hubby has been on ACC for over a year due to a very serious accident. He works as a skipper on a fishing boat so would be away alot. At the moment I have been working part time and he really seems to enjoy the SAHD lifestyle. I would love to go back to work full time as I probally would earn more than him..and that way he won't be away.
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Posted: 11 November 2009 at 9:20pm |
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I'm taking the first 6 months with the baby, then my husband is taking the second 6 months. I think we'll have to do daycare after that, but I earn a pile more than DH so it just makes a lot more sense to do it that way.
And he'll be doing the housework as well as looking after the baby if that's what I do when I am at home! There's no way I am going to do everything when I am at home, and continue doing everything when I am working too!! At the moment we split the chores and take turns cooking. There'll still be some degree of that when the baby comes.
I'd love to stay at home for a year, but financially, we just can't do it.
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Posted: 12 November 2009 at 7:49pm |
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I have just gone back to work and DH is staying at home - he is doing a far better job than me - so it works perfectly for us - also i get all the school holidays off so its the best of both worlds.
lewis loves being home with his dad and they do more stuff together than i ever did - well worth it
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pomikiwi
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Posted: 12 November 2009 at 8:09pm |
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I would swap if I could earn what DH does. I would want to be home for at least the 1st year for BF, after that bubs could have just morning night BF.
DH would totally love to. What a shame it'll never happen, lol!
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