is it nature or upbringing?

Im studying psychology at Uni this year and have always found the nature/nurture debate to be a fascinating one. Especially when I was nannying, I would wonder how a couple of kids from the same parents could be so different. And it really is a bunch of both.

Take for example a shy child, doesnt like to play by themselves, and is clingy to Mummy/Daddy. It could be said that this was just a nature thing, their parents were supportive, this is just a personality trait. But what if because the child is shy, the parents decide to cut out all the activites that they dont like? Like other kids, and having time away from the parents. Wouldnt this now bw a nurture issue?

Sorry if I have confused anyone, but this subject does interest me alot, for which reason i want to be a child psychologist someday.

So basically it is a melding of both nature and nurture, and cannot really be defined either way.

I also think its both. My brother and I are very different and think and behave very differently. And yet our parents did nothing different. I also believe that the environment we grow up in makes a difference. I grew up in Bangladesh, with very traditional family surronding me. I am therefore evry traditional. My brother grew up overseas and his thinking is very different.

Zaara is also very bratty! she does not like NO either.

Recently she is really bad (with a flu and molar coming out) I tell her NO Zaara dont do that...she put her head down and creams...then looks at me....Stop it Zaara...head down and scream again.....looks up at me....for gods sake zaara...head down scream....ok thats it I am ignoring you now.....head down scream and then 1 min later she is running around happy!!

Man I cant wait to see what she will do at 2!!