Daycare - Friends or no friends?

Just thought I would gather some opinions here as really don't know what to do.

I put DS name on lots of waiting lists (as chch is hard to get into daycare) and he has now been offered 3 places. They are all on par with each other but:

1. He would be with about 5-6 of the plunket coffee group babies.
2. He would be with a wee friend that he sees at least twice a week. I am really good friends with the other lady and was prior to babies
3. He would be on his own.

What do you think would be best for him? I keep changing my mind. Also MIL wants to look after his 1 day a week. I am not close to her and find her rather irritating. Is it disruptive to do 4 days DC and 1 day with MIL?

TIA

Well it comes down to which one you felt more comfortable with... Maybe option 2 - then he'd get to make more friends and you might as well?

I have a love hate relationship with my outlaws and personally I wouldn't do it. I did it with Nyah (she had her every Friday from the time Nyah was 9mths) She never followed our routine and Nyah was overly spoilt and it drove me mad.

i would possibly go for 2 as well, if you have a good relationship with that lady then maybe you can share pick ups etc too... but yeah i would look at what the staff are like and how he interacts with them.

Yep - I'd do number 2.

It's not so much for your little one but for you. I mean, he'll make friends in no time at all but it's always good for you to have a fellow mama friend at creche

Hi Peanut

I definitely think Option 2 as well.

But with your MIL I think you should let her have him one day a week if that is what she is wanting to do. I know you find her irritating but am assuming your DS doesn't! Please don't take offense at this, just think that it could build a really good relationship between your MIL and DS.

My sister has two boys, both of them have spent one day a week with my mother and one day a week with her MIL, with the other 3 days at daycare. She finds her MIL very irritating (as does her husband and it's his mum ). But the boys have never found it disruptive and love spending time with their Granny! They even know exactly what day they are meant to be where!

Anyway, just my 2 cents worth...

Amanda

nikkiwhyte wrote: Yep - I'd do number 2.

*snort* insert poo joke *snigger*

Thats my thoughts on it, Emz. She doesn't listen to a word I say so its just a pain.

The only prob is that she gave up work to look after her grandhildren but never actually asked. Luckily she looks after her daughters child once a week! DH thinks she should have him once a week so that will be an interesting discussion.

Well, decision made and booked!

Thanks everyone. I appreciate your input!

I'd go with #2 as well but remember at 6mos it won't matter from his POV where he goes. If you don't get on that well with MIL then just let her visit and do night-time babysitting when you and your DH go out.

My DS started at kindy with no friends, and now he has lots

I chose the kindy for the staff and place, not for friends, but I guess it would be nice if I knew some parents there