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Posted: 02 October 2006 at 8:46am |
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Alrighty, so the newbie is due in a few weeks and I am starting to get nervous... Andy will be taking a month off work which is fantastic 'cause I am wondering how I will juggle a newborn and a toddler.
But... found out a few days that when he goes back to work after his time off he will have to go to Wellington for a month.
Will I cope with a newborn and a toddler by myself without going insane? Any tips?
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Posted: 02 October 2006 at 9:07am |
Go to Wellington with him??!?! 
A friend of mine was in a similar situation (just had a baby) and her DH was seconded to Chch for 2 months, they rented an apartment for the duration
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Posted: 02 October 2006 at 10:52am |
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I was with my mum (who wwas working) just after lewis left to go back to Japan. My advice is to get into a routine as quick as possible. Have Dvds and books by your breastfeeding place for Quinn to lolok at while you feed. get lots of ideas for quick meals, and put some in the freezer while hubby is off work. (last thing you feel like doing is cooking). try and get out of the house as much as possible, even just a short work everyday is nice. remember that baby crying for a short time is okay. get a saafe place to put bubba if you need to pick up Quinn in a hurry. Portacots are great for baby to place in, in the lounge, while Quinn is there too and you need to shower or something.
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Posted: 02 October 2006 at 12:57pm |
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If you have a spare bed it may help to have a friend stay over, even if just for a night a week. Occasionally I have had my little sister (13yrs) stay and it's awesome for company as well as another pair of hands to hold baby or play with the preschooler.
Definitely the prep meal thing, and lots of "new" activities for Quinn (even if you just put some away now and bring them out during that month).
All the best! A month sounds like a long time!
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Posted: 02 October 2006 at 2:29pm |
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Well I'm a newbie mum to just 1, and I can't imagine how hard it would be for you with a toddler and newborn. And remember, you will probably still be doing night feeds and getting over labour after 1 month. My advice would be to get your mum or another close friend to stay with you (as much as they possibly can), or have a 'roster' of friends that can come and help you out. If that isn't possible, are you able to have someone (or several people) take Quinn overnight once a week - then you only have 1 littlie to deal with.
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Posted: 02 October 2006 at 4:21pm |
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I was just about to say Liz is the expert on this topic lol!
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Posted: 02 October 2006 at 8:05pm |
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I was soooo lucky to be living with mum at the time while Lewis was away. Now I've just found out he'll be on night shifts - so the night routine will be mine....scarey.
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Posted: 02 October 2006 at 9:40pm |
after having him at home for a month you'll prob be glad of the break from him and will cope much better than you expect...
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Posted: 03 October 2006 at 7:39am |
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yeah start thinking "we've done things your way...now lets try the RIGHT way"
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Posted: 03 October 2006 at 8:38am |
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Ah Lizzle!! I should have thought of you first!!
Thanks for all the help everyone... going with him is not an option as he is a copper going down to police college. But I have decided to impose on my mother for a month!! It may not be ideal as she already has one house guest who refuses to leave but I think I need some company! I am not so worried about the baby/toddler but of it, I am more worried about going mad without someone to talk to at the end of the day!
Deb - I def get what you mean being sick of him after a month... sometimes he drives me nuts after a weekend!! At least at the end of it I'll be so excited to see him!!
Lizzle - after doing it by yourself I reckon night shift will be easy!! Haven't done it by myself yet but Andy used to do seven nights shifts in a row... I found it good, the only problem was keeping Quinn quiet during the day so he could sleep as our house is smaller than a matchbox but we usually just went out!
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Posted: 03 October 2006 at 9:41am |
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anna you might find it better to stay at home so you can keep any routines you have established. then perhaps you can visit your mum and maybe have her visit you so her guest doesnt drive her crazy too. then too if you stay away for a month the kids will have to readjust to being at home and baby will be more aware by then too.
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