crying so much he’s pooping!

will he sleep with poo's in naps? I only ask as you say he wakes up 5 times - just thought if you could wait till the next time he wakes up before u change his napy - I know this isn't ideal but getting him out to change him doesn't help the crying.

If you do need to change him i would with out talking to him - looking him in the eye , no interaction at all with him, change him quickly and put him back to bed. I know it sounds harsh but if control crying is to work its what needs to be done (I have been there )

Its so hard to hear them cry and will make you feel worse when you know he is getting upset and pooing . Just remember he will still love u in the morn and when hes old will not remember. He wil still smile at you in the morn when he wakes up

Has he started solids yet? That may be why he's wanting so many feeds in the night.

ETA: It's hard doing CIO technique for the first time with an older baby. We had to do this for Briona at 6mos and it was very hard and took a while as well. I learned to listen for the pattern (after a peak, the spaces between crying should get longer and longer... unless there is something wrong, like hunger). Sometimes with Bria I had no idea whether I needed to get her up or leave her to it, so I'd make myself a cuppa and drink it out of earshot. It took me 10 minutes and usually after then I had calmed down and was able to find that pattern.

It's hard, but it does pay off.

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Thanks for the help. It's just so hard! I always swore I'd never leave him to cry. But after 8 months of feeding him to sleep and that not even working I'm having to do the crying thing. Is so not the kind of mother I want to be. I just feel so awful about it. I only leave Andy for 5 minutes at a time. He did 3 poos before he went to sleep last night. Was up until after midnight! He did only wake twice after that thank goodness! Propably due to the Pamol I gave him as I was wondering if his teeth were playing up again as he was just so miserable. I think they must be as he has been a little demon again this morning.

Yes Andy is on solids. He is still BF every 3-4 (if I'm lucky!) hours during the night. I know he probably doesn't really need it and it's just a habit but I'm just too tired to fight him about it. I would rather just plug him in so he stops crying... Each night I keep thinking "tonight will be better". But it never is. When I get some sleep then I'll have a go at getting him back to sleep without a boob, one wake at a time.

Is there such thing as too much pooping??! Yesterday and Tuesday Andy has been doing soo many poopies. Like around 6/7 a day! Do you think I'm giving him something that isn't agreeing with him?

If only it was safe to DRINK when BF lol Will go have a nice glass of water instead

aww! Big hugs, I totally feel for you! I have no advise, as I am in sleep hell, too, all I can say is you are not alone, have a good cry and vent on here and big hugs!

Have you tried getting in touch with Louise at the sleepstore? we were having all sorts of problems with Matthew too & I emailed Louise & she gave me lots of tips & things to try & suggested a routine from the book save our sleep which really worked for us. I couldn't do the CIO thing, but by following the routines etc in that book, I didn't need to. I know it won't work for everyone, but may be worth a shot?

Laura I can email you a program that Claire sent me. I just started using it last night with Alize. He has always been a terrible sleeper and waking nonstop thru the night. Night one was last night and wasnt as bad or as scary/sad as I thought it would be.

Wahoo!!! Andy is asleep. Have had a very good sleeping day today. Tonight he went down with a fuss. Woke 15 mins later with a big poopie and then went back to sleep within half an hour. He looks so cute. Nothing more beautiful than a sleeping baby!

Now if only it would continue and I get a few hours of sleep all strung tog ... Andy started crawling today. Exciting! Maybe that has tired him out??

Andie his poops are normal. HUGE! Today was Andy's first day on figs so that won't be causing any problems.

I'll PM you Kels. Definately keen!