2 ’dads’ for Fathers Day?????

So true Kelly. We've actually told the BF that he has until christmas to decide what hes going to do in regards to Jake. He has to either start properly developing a relationship or he has to stop hanging out with my family at all. At the moment he spends heaps of time at my parents place talking to my mum and using the net and the dryer and stuff and only sees Jake if we're all there at the same time. I reckon thats gonna get quite confusing for Jake having this guy around who is sposed to be his bio dad but has no interest in him so yeah I laid down the law lol he doesn't know what he wants to do yet somehow its a really hard decision and of course my mum doesn't think I should be allowed to tell them and him that he can't go to their house anymore if he doesn't want a relationship with his own son but she'll have to come round coz otherwise Jake wont be going there. Grrr so frustrating when people are so selfish and concerned about themselves first and foremost!!!!

Anyway once thats sorted Fathers Day will be alot easier so just gotta sort out this wknd and leave next year to sort out itself. I love what Phils card said!! DP isn't Jakes stepdad as far as any of us are concerned so I wouldn't get him one of them anyway. Jake calls him dad and BF is refered to by name. You're right none of them have to know what the other is getting (except DP will know what the BF gets of course) so no reason for there to be trouble and if anyone else tries to interfere, well its none of their business. Theres only so far I can go to keep everyone happy I'm not gonna break my back bending over backwards :sigh: people can be such hard work!!

You'd probably understand how my DP feels lemongirl.
He adores Jake and hes taken the dad role on fulltime and while he would fully support the BF having a role in Jakes life he finds it difficult at the moment when BF talks about his 'rights' and so on but otherwise shows Jake no care. DP would be very hurt if he didn't receive recognition as Jakes primary dad or if he and BF were treated equally.

Sorry to hear about your DPs ex making things so difficult for him!! How bout you just put Fathers Day off til shes with you next? You could have your own special day for him then with breaky and presents and stuff it wouldn't mean any less just coz its on a different day!