Should I be annoyed?

...or should I just get over it?

We are on a very strict budget at our place (aren't we all ) so I haven't been shopping for anything for myself for a LONG LONG time! I even have to calculate anything we spend for the kids - clothes etc and I always run it past DH.

So DH just this week has bought a computer part on trade me for $39 (didn't even tell me until he'd bought it), went out to the movies with a mate on Tues. (that's fine, I suggested it) and then yesterday came home with a new drill for $60!! I know this doesn't seem like a lot of money for most people but for us it is LOTS! I am so annoyed that he spent this money without even running it by me.

So my question: Am I allowed to be a bit annoyed or should I forget it and just start doing the same thing? grrr

I did tell him I'm annoyed and why, he doesn't seem to care? Maybe because he earns the money he thinks he's entitled to do it? LOL, I didn't mean it with doing the same, I'd feel much to guilty and I really don't want to get into debt

Definitely out of the norm. Yeah, I guess we all need a blow out every now and then. Hate money

OOOhhhhh Petey........ I smell a PP splurge coming on, lol...

We do that as well miss, DH has some money in his account which pays for his petrol and also any take outs etc he want to get when at work, his gym membership and then he has some to save for other bits he might like. I take some money out of what I earn and keep it for the same things and then all the rest of our money is pooled for bills and savings and then we talk about large expenditures.
But we are both guilty of abusing our CC

I'd talk to him and explain your concerns. If he doesn't get it after that then raaaaaaaant away!!

We are the opposite here..... DF is the saver and I am the spender. I sometimes had to hide purchases but now that all our accounts are linked he can keep a watchful eye on it- damn it!

I would just leave it as every one needs to have a blow out and treat themselves. If it happens again soon then rant rant rant!!

My hat goes off to people that can budget, I suck at it. I wish I was better but plain fact is that I am usually the spender! We are lucky and dont need to budget that much but still, we could probably save better if we did!

newmum - while things are really tight obviously, does he get any spending momey? If so, then he is being out of order and needs to have his cashflow card taken away! if not, it is worth building at least a small amount in somehow just so he doesn't feel hard done by and stuff everything up.

We would find that a lot too. Are you particularly wanting to buy anything right now, winter clothes for you or the kids for example? He might need to know that to get it in perspective. Yea often the earner feels "entitled" to spend it but if you are going to be on a single income everything really has to be agreed in some way. We have our own spending allowances, even $10 a week each is great and it won't really affect your budget because you'll probably find that you are already spending it but just with guilt. When you know that you have a regular amount available to you it makes things a bit less stressful. Sounds like time for a talk about what systems you guys want in place...