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MummyFreckle 
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 Posted: 17 July 2009 at 9:06pm |
I love looking at your blog lilfatty - I have seen it before and it makes me all teary everytime!!
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my2angels
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Posted: 17 July 2009 at 9:46pm |
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I would probably tell them what you want to do before hand, even just your parents. thats if you have a close relationship with them. I know i would be really hurt if my children didnt tell me they were planning on getting married, even if they wanted it to be just an intimate thing I would still want to know it was happening. My dad got married and didnt tell any of us and I was really upset (a little different I know but still....)
If you dont want them there even if they paid for themselves to go down to wanaka, I would at least tell them out of respect, especially since you already know how hurt your mum was when your sister did it.
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Posted: 17 July 2009 at 10:23pm |
You are my hero 
If it feels right do it. The more you think about it the more reasons you'll find not to do it and you'll end up talking yourselves out of it.
You can always come back and have a bbq/party to celebrate with family and friends.
I want to elope!! Marc and I have been discussing it alot lately. We are both pretty low key people who don't like a fuss so a wedding would not be our thing. It's also a $$ thing as we are wanting to buy a house and we have a family now.
Keep us posted 
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Posted: 17 July 2009 at 11:17pm |
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Something to think about, I work with a lady whose daughter eloped, and she (mum) was devistated.
How would your family feel about not being there.
I think its a great idea about going to the festival etc, you may want to have an open invitation to your families if they want to be there.
I know of a few couples that have 'eloped' to Raro with the kids and their immediate families, and friends paid their own way if they wanted to.
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Posted: 18 July 2009 at 10:30am |
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Yeah I would have to tell my parents as they would be hurt [:>(] Ideally Marc and I would like our Parents & Siblings there but it would depend on where and when as they are spread over the country.
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Posted: 18 July 2009 at 10:54am |
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Two of my cousins (brothers) did it and 5 years later I still don't think their mum is over it. After the second one my mum made me promise I'd never do it to her.
Any chance you could just ask both sets of parents if they'd like to be there? It would only be 4 more people.
BUT, if it is really what you both want, to do it with just the friends then I think that is what you should do, it is your day and it should be how you want it.
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Posted: 18 July 2009 at 5:03pm |
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lilfatty....that is AWESOME!!! I have wedding envy...and you were married the week before us.
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Posted: 18 July 2009 at 6:39pm |
LittleFatty that is awesome!!! Such a good read! Seems like a more than perfect day you had.
All the best Lisa.
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Posted: 19 July 2009 at 8:45am |
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Lilfatty that was awesome! In fact that just makes me want to do it more lol.
My parents will be gutted but at the end of the day they have 4 daughters (one was greedy and has had TWO extravagant weddings) so even though my sister eloped and it's what we are planning my parents have still had 3 big weddings! Besides I know how many thousands upon thousands they spent on those 3 weddings and I don't want that. I think the harder part will be Jess' parents as he is the eldest and first to get married. I think his Mum will be sad (and I looove her so it's really hard) but out of everyone they will probably be the most understanding as they had Jess when they were 21 and had no money so they have been in a cash shortage situation whereas my parents never really had that problem.
It's hard to leave them out but I think it's the best. Jess parents are divorced as well and I can just see the 4 of them getting drunk and my parents will be the first to say or do something outrageous or insensitive and it would become a 'situation' haha
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Posted: 19 July 2009 at 8:46am |
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Haha we are considering sending out a mass email to family and friends then not answering the phone for a week or two lol
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Posted: 19 July 2009 at 8:23pm |
Yeah when it comes down to it you guys know the whole family dynamics thing in your particular families best. I hope you get the exact day you want and that its perfect for you 
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Posted: 20 July 2009 at 3:23pm |
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I personally would tell our parents - only becuase i know they would be devestated to know we had not told them/invited them. Even though your sisters have had big wedidngs, each child is different and im sure as parents you feel differently about each child and would want to be there for the special day. At the end of the day it is up to you guys but its only 4 more people so wouldn't make it massive.
You are having a lunch so i wouldn't expect the parents to get too sloshed but know what you mean, i was very worried about my DH's fathers speech and behaviour on our wedding day though he was very well behaved (until the end when he danced on tables)
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Posted: 20 July 2009 at 3:30pm |
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Hannahbil wrote -
You are having a lunch so i wouldn't expect the parents to get too sloshed
Haha you haven't met my parents have you?
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