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caitlynsmygirl
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Posted: 26 October 2007 at 9:47pm |
haha she is gonna have a big shock when the baby is born, unfortunatley for her babies dont actually come with a manual, and things can pop up that she hasnt even thought of, ie, she might not be able to breastfeed, she might have a child that cries all the time and cant wait to leave him, who knows?
As for you thinking your a bad mum cos your going to oz, meh, cr*p, if you are then so am i , but possibly worse, cos i had my daughter stay at her dads house from about 4 weeks, youre no more a cr*p mum than i am a tomato.
From what ive read of your posts, you adore your daughter and would do anything for her, thats the mark of a good mum sweets.
As for your (im sorry ) idiot friend, just smile knowingly, and say "we'll see then " like you couldnt care less about her stupid opinion, cos thats just what it is, until youve walked the walk...dont talk the talk, she'll discover the truth soon enough
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Jennz
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Posted: 27 October 2007 at 12:36am |
I have one of these 'friends' too. We had met up for lunch and I pulled out a (organic, no added sugar, no preservatives etc) muesli bar for Charlotte and she pipes up that her baby won't be having any prepackaged food when they are little. Being 7 months pregnant and exhausted I had no energy to tell her where to stick it but it did make me feel a bit crappy at the time. Then she went on to say that she wasn't going to breastfeed because the thought of it was (and I quote) icky. Hmmmm?  Said friend is now 4 months pregnant- scary stuff.
I must admit alot of us are guilty of 'perfect mother' syndrome before we have children- its very easy to be a perfect mother before you have children!
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MissCandice
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Posted: 27 October 2007 at 8:14am |
lol lizzle that was funny, thanks guys.. i just wishthere was a manual then i could know i was doing ok! My plunket nurse thought kylah had a urine infection so i took her to the doc, she told me kylah was way to happy and healthy looking to have an infection but checked anyway so that made me smile :) Sometimes i wish she would just keep her comments to herself!
She lives with her mum and her boyfriend.. hes on home detention.. hmmmm enough aid. I dont feel shes much of a friend anyway! i seen her 3 times while i was pregnnt, and i havent see her since! Shes only texting me cos shewants me to sell her my breast pump..
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lizzle
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Posted: 27 October 2007 at 10:09am |
well, something else i did, and it depends it you want to be this petty
make up claims and statistics to support whatever you are doing.
for instance
her: oMG, your baby has a dummy? thats so gross I would never let my baby have one?
you: really? they are actually recommended as statistically babies who use dummies are less likely to die from cot death (actually did read that in the newspaper some point)
and it doesn't have to be true at all. If she looks at you funny, just say it is recommended by leading pediatricians in the UK.
i did this to my SIL
her: Look at the mess taine is making. he should put away his toys before he brings out new ones (taine was under 1 at the time)
me: actually messy play has been shown to increase co-ordination and gross motor skills (all i could do on a time limit).
her: huffs away.
MIL: Oh I read that too (suck up)
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Jennz
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Posted: 27 October 2007 at 10:23am |
Haha- reminds me of this: Did you know that 93% of all statistics are made up on the spot?
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Maya
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Posted: 27 October 2007 at 3:44pm |
lizzle wrote:
MIL: Oh I read that too (suck up) |
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BaAsKa
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Posted: 27 October 2007 at 9:00pm |
If you want to get a dig in with her but be descreet when her bubs is born - for a present you should give her a sachet of formula and a bottle of bio oil!  with a little note saying "these things just happen but these will help"
i had all the intentions in the world and all the help i could possibly get when i was "trying" to B/feed my first boy but still failed miserably!! so she shouldnt count her chickens (or working boobies!  ) before they hatch!
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BaAsKa
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Posted: 27 October 2007 at 9:03pm |
oh i forgot to say - YOU LUCKY DEVIL!!!!!!! i would LOVE to go to OZ kidless!!! but alas we have to take our boys!.
Have LOADS of fun!!! and dont feel the least bit guilty!! which im sure your friend will be feeling when shes dying for a break from her bubs!!
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Rackhell
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Posted: 27 October 2007 at 9:05pm |
Your 'friends' comments are not worth being upset about, and like everybody else has said - karma. It sounds like you already know what value to give to her opinions too - percisely nothing.
Kylah sounds like she's doing so well! so you're definitely a great sounding mum to my way of thinking.
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Posted: 27 October 2007 at 11:04pm |
Gosh your friend has got a shock ahead of her!. Its all very well thinking your pregnancy, childbirth and looking after baby will go smoothly but for 99.9% of us it is never smooth sailing.As for her remarks, just brush them off. You could always make comments about how puffy her face looks now that she's pregnant, and that she's developed cankles Ahhhhhhh get her back I say!!.
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