interesting phone call with MIL

Its awful that people think they can express their opinions so bluntly and expect that it would be recieved well !!!

And try and tell people what to do grrr
DD is still bf at night , have been doing that for about 2 months but before EVERYONE would comment. Worst of all my MOTHER was the one saying well its about time you stopped.

I thinkits great so many people feed for an extended time , I love the time spent feeding dd.

We are all awesome and it doesn't matter what all those ignorant bossy people think !!!

I can't remember what it is like to BF . It was only 3 months ago I stopped due to low milk and I was going back to work. I loved it the most when I would nurse Arianne in bed having that comfort is a wonderful feeling and I feel sad for everyone who can't BF.

You BF as long as you want (within reason like you said )

kathamill wrote: melnel wrote: My mil makes comments along the lines of "thats the problem with bf, only you can feed him" and "well we can look after him soon when he is on the bottle". just thought i'd put in my two cents. i think this sort of comment is hilarious. only mothers can breastfeed because thats the way we were designed. i dont notice any of the family (ie DH's and MIL's) offering to be pregnant for a bit?!

hehehehe, so true kathamill!

Lol also had a rather annoying conversation about feeding last night with the MIL. Slightly different though

Me: I'm thinking of weaning Hollie
MIL: Oh well, you have given her a good start I guess"

A good start she guesses? I have hated feeding from the word go. No apparent reason, just didn't want a bar of it. My goal was 3 months. I've done 8, and I get 'I guess it's a good start?', Blimey woman it's a friggen awesome start!

I believe feeding is such a personal thing. Do it for as long or as little as you like, it's nobody elses beeswax!

Edited by Flake

MegansMum wrote: I was also thinking about what she said about mums in the netherlands not feeding past 8 months..now how does she know it is still like that....I mean she would not have any contact with mums with young babies and we are talking over 30 years ago..also I would think that back when I was a baby it would have been the same sort of thing...babies on to formula by 6 months..I Think I was only breastfed for 3 months.

Assuming your MIL has internet, she should have a look at this website: http://www.borstvoeding.com/
This DUTCH website promotes BF and shows quite a few pictures of BF toddlers.
I am Dutch myself, and my parents who still live in Holland, often comment on how in Holland people don't really do what I do (Attachment parenting, baby wearing, baby led weaning, co sleeping, you name it ). When I showed them this website they became a lot more understanding.

You're not alone with the MIL comments. When Lily was 3 mths MIL asked me if I 'had her on the bottle yet'. She never BF so doesn't understand it (what's not to understand???!!). The whole time she was here at xmas she made me feel uncomfortable about feeding (Lil was 4-5 mths) and always commented to DH that there was no way she would demand feed and that Lily should be in a proper feeding routine, yet would tell me how lovely it was that we responded to Lily as she needed us and that she fed her children when they were hungry as well. This is a women who hardly ever woke up to her crying twins at night - slept straight through and would wake in teh morning to find her husband had been up to them during the night...unless she was lying about that as well??! We are going over there next month and it will be interesting to see how she reacts to me stil BFing. She had told DH that Lily should be weaned by 9 mths as that is what they do in the UK. Hmmm, she has no other grandchildren, is 68 and doesnt have contact with other babies so am not sure where she gets her info from. I will be telling her that WHO recommends feeding until 2 years and we will just see how we go with Lily (if she doesnt self wean we will prob be dropping to 1 feed per day by xmas but am not telling her that!!).
And yep, I too am way too lazy to have used formula. I suck at expressing too so Lily has formula if I am away for a feed or she is staying with my parents.

I too believe that if you can, and both mum and baby are happy to, then breastfeeding makes the most sense. At the end fo the day that is what boobs are for.

We have just dropped a feed and are now just having morning and night feeds and that is fine as Hayden hasnt asked for his afternoon feed and doesnt appear to be missing it, he's very busy these days you see but if he's upset or extra tired I'll offer. This is working well for us and I think we'll carry on down this route until he self weans.

I found the other girls in my ante natal group here in the UK all put their babies onto formula at around 3mths and the y all did it for convenience, not returning to work or other such reasons, just that they wanted their bodies back and it was annoying. This just didnt sit right with me. I understand, boy do I ever, that you do sometimes get sick of being poked and prodded and climbed on and pulled at, nipped and down right bitten, but its still not a good enough reason to move to formula IMO.

My MIL is very much mindful of the way we parent, how we like to do things etc which is brilliant (she hated how her parents bossed her and FIL around in their early marriage so consciously keeps her opinions to herself) but I'd love to know what she really thinks of Hayden still being breastfeed, she hasnt passed comment at this stage - she fed DH and his sister max of 6 weeks.