being judged

When I did family daycare I often used to go shopping with three children in tow. People assume you are the Mum not the caregiver. I used to get some weird looks as the middle child was brown and looked nothing like the other two. I used to play dumb and have a quiet chuckle to myself. I assume people thought I'd had a fling on the side or something.

Yep Nikki I know what you mean about the young-mother looks, I used to get them (I think!) when I was 21 with Hannah. I felt so indignant, I was even married!!

Emma - makeup? I barely wear lippy once a fortnight and anything beyond that I save for when I'm "childless" for the night.... doesn't seem worth the makeup when you spend all your energy on keeping kids in line instead of looking pretty!


Man I hate the spamming message! Had to retype ...doesn't this forum recognise the excellent skills (ie typing speed) of an ex-PA??

I feel judged when people comment on how cold or hot they think my baby is dressed... one lady on a not-too -cold day commented that maybe Ella had her legs crossed in her stroller to keep them warmer, then saw that her hands were bare and asked if they'd be warm enough (?!? - she had tights and the only things showing at all were her face and hands, and it really wasn't toooo cold!).  But then I don't really care about those comments.  Some people think a baby that isn't constantly rugged up will freeze.  And my wee Ella, she busts a temp just having a cry, so she's OK. 

Funny how I do care about their 'judgements' on my parenting or my baby when it's a complement though - ooooh yes, all of a sudden I care about a complete stranger's opinion!!   Ha ha... I hear what I want to! 

yep because i,m of the brown skin type and james is whiter then a sheet most of the time i dont care what people think but i do get looks when he goed mama and i go running to him lol

You shouldn't feel judged. I was in the supermarket yesterday afternoon and a little boy was having a tantrum on the floor cause he wasn't getting what he wanted, so another customer layed on the floor next to him complaining too, it was hilarious. People are a lot more supportive of mums than you think.

ooh i love it when they think that oh girls are having babies too young these days.. lol sure lady.. when you were my age (ie 25) you were probably married for 8 years and had all your kids already... heaps of them got married straight outta school - my grandmother was 17 when she got married! but apparently we know nothing.