An ongoing battle....

ok i havent read all the replies but wanted to let you know that he is not that unusual. My husband is just the same...unless he has planned it he cant cope, gets all antsy and upset. he explained it like a map...where he has planned out what he is doing and it is programmed in so if i say suddenly will you just drop in at so and so he gets upset cause he has to make detours off his map. it does make it hard to be spontaneous, but you just have to give people like that warning so they can plan or map it out.... so for instance my husband always takes gabriel to school on his day off, he knows that so there is no surprises.

Thanks girls. I can cope with changing the way I ask him to do things, thats no issue, i think the hardest thing is the way he flips out when I ask him things. Looking at all of those symptoms it all makes sense. The other day I had a little boy here suffering from asthma and he badly needed an inhaler, and DH refused to let me give him his one. There have been so many times where ive thought "do you HAVE a heart?!" Other times he will bring up a topic (usually sports) and if I disagree with what he is saying he completely flips out and refuses to listen to me. He will often ask my opinion on things and if I dont say what he wants to hear, again he flips out and swears at me etc.

With the numbers thing, hes not a genius or anything, but if i give him 10 figures of say what Ive purchased he can tell me the answer almost straight away. He works out how much petrol we get per litre etc. Theres no pythagarus (sp!- and i dont even know if thats maths lol) or anything like that....

Its like ALL of my complaints all link to this asperges!

Thanks - I have spoken to him about aspergers and the symptoms and he thinks he has it. I called the autism line and they gave me a number to call to get DH assessed, $150 PER HOUR!!! And they need 8 sessions with him. I dont have $1200!!!