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mummy_becks 
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 Posted: 11 June 2008 at 4:37pm |
Sheena I have lost contact with a few friends as we are at different stages of live and we are the same age.
Don't worry yourself too much (althou might help bring Caden out  ) once she is ready to catch up let her be the one to come to you.
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I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived!
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gypsynita
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Posted: 11 June 2008 at 4:38pm |
that totally sucks -- something similar happened to us...
we asked DH's best friend to be one of my bridesmaids, she agreed then told us she was going on her OE but would come back for the wedding. she booked her tickets through me but refused to get a return ticket (even though our wedding was in january - like peak time to fly) and then we got an email from her a month before the wedding saying she wasnt coming home for the wedding cause her boyfriend might break up with her if she did!!! i understand people have different priorities, but really! If he's that fickle that he can't handle being in a different country for a week then he's really not worth it is he? this same chick actually missed her own sister's wedding two months later for the same reason...
moral of the story - not really friends anymore cause you totally don't need that in your life!! friendships are supposed to be give AND take, can't just take the bits you want and ditch them the rest of the time. my advice would be get yourself a new bridesmaid - i did and it couldn't have been better 
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Posted: 11 June 2008 at 4:41pm |
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Maybe you've outgrown each other, like you said you're about to become a mum and she's still doing the single thing.
It's ok to move on, someone will come along to "replace" her.
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caitlynsmygirl
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Posted: 11 June 2008 at 6:14pm |
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yeah sounds like you've probably got from each other all you needed to when the friendship was strong (that whole, reason , season or a life time thing)
Imo being asked to be a bridesmaid is a big honour, i guess its just not as big an honour to her, it is very sad really ,but thats what happens with friendships sometimes i guess
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blondie
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Posted: 11 June 2008 at 8:09pm |
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Thats terribile I had something like this happen but it was my own sister the night before my wedding she phoned to say she didn't want to be a bridesmaid anymore (she was so jealous as im the younger sister)On my wedding day she was there as a bridesmaid but was a sour face all day even in the photos and ever since my wedding day we have not been that close so kinda sad I think people who try to be a pain at or about weddings are a pain in the A*se.
I do hope you get it sorted before your wedding.
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Posted: 11 June 2008 at 8:35pm |
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I think you should message her back (or talk to her if you're brave enough) and just ask her to let you know definitely if she will be available to be your bridesmaid or not- because if shes not going to be there then you need to find a replacement. Its a perfectly reasonable request. Like the other have said, when you settle down, get married, have kids etc you often lose touch with friends at different life stages. I have some friends that have lasted the distance but have lost touch with others.
I think she may be jealous and is trying to disrupt things for you and stress you out. Asking her straight out will call her bluff and you can move on from there.
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Shezamumof3
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Posted: 12 June 2008 at 8:25am |
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BaAsKa
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Posted: 12 June 2008 at 10:42am |
 CadensMum wrote:
I might do it after caden is born and once Im settled etc |
Do it now and Caden might finally grace you with his appearance 
Im a very tempered person and if someone did that to me i would go kung foo on them! 
At my wedding my sister (who is also jelous and an unhappy so and so) walked around my wedding with a grumpy look shooting nasty comments at people which i tried to defuse but them the minute we said I DO - her , her partner (who was DHs bestman) and son (who was paige boy with Bay) went and got changed out of wedding attire BEFORE the photos! so i asked her to get changed back for photos and she snarked "nah its too fu**ing hot"!!! well!....i screamed at the top of my lungs in front of everyone and she finally went with her men and got changed.......she sulked all night and "I" had to say Sorry! Biarch!!
sorry that was kinda off the topic! lol
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Shezamumof3
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Posted: 12 June 2008 at 1:59pm |
 Urghh that would make me go kung fu aswell!!! I would refuse to say sorry lol.
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