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MissCandice 
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 Posted: 11 June 2008 at 9:07am |
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Awww not what i wanted to hear. I always had hope it would go away. But infact it wont.
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~ Mummy to a beautiful girl ~
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nikkitheknitter
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Posted: 11 June 2008 at 9:43am |
Right. I didn't read the replies but wanted to direct you to a fabulous website if you haven't already been there:
The Shape of a Mother
Frick. I had something else to say but I can't remember!
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caraMel
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Posted: 11 June 2008 at 11:00am |
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I'm not sure why, but I find that website makes me even more depressed about it!
I think half my problem is that I got off virtually stretch-mark and sag free when I had Ella. I just had one tiny mark where my belly piercing was and I was back in my regular clothes almost straight away. Then when I had Benjy, surprise! My tummy popped out at 2 months and just kept on stretching. I so wasn't expecting that!
Anyway, obsessing about the ugliness certainly isn't helping me. I'll just keep on hoping that time and exercise will help (despite all the advice to the contrary, lol!)
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nikkitheknitter
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Posted: 11 June 2008 at 11:33am |
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Oh, sorry! I didn't realise!
I love the website because it makes me realise there are people around the world with all sorts of body shapes and there is something much more important that has come about after our bodies have changed so much - that we all have kiddliwinkos.
I'll take the link down if ya want.
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BuzzyBee
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Posted: 11 June 2008 at 12:00pm |
Lol the photos on that page make me feel a wee bit better ....although my stretch marks/saggy skin is much the same if not worse. Maybe I should join the photo weigh loss thread on here, and 'share my journey' of healthy eating and exercising in the attempt to TRY and tighten up that area.
Sorry for starting this post  Was totally on a downer last night.
I look at Lucas and I can safely say I'd much rather have him any day over a 'perfect' body. What is perfect anyway? Beauty is in the eye of the beholder as they say!
So as of now, I'm going to try and eat healthier ....cut out all the crap food (after I finish my pack of bikkies here  ) ...I had a really good breakfast so I don't feel so guilty about that. Going to do lots of crunchies, and walk regularly with the pram (weather permitting) ....and I'll try the darned bio oil again. Although I honestly think it doesn't do jack. But I'll stay positive 
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Posted: 11 June 2008 at 12:25pm |
Big hugs to you 
i went through this when my daughter was born 5 years ago. my entire stomach was covered in deep red stretchmarks and i looked about 4 months pregnant for a long time.
when she was about 18 months old i decided i needed to lose weight and give myself some confidence. i managed to lose 30kgs, but never managed to lose my excess skin around my tummy.
it wasnt until my pregnancy this time around that i finally came to terms with my saggy tummy and silvery stretchmarks. i now call them my "mummy" marks 
My DH doesnt mind them and im not about to go flaunting my tummy around on the beach anytime soon (anyway, theres only about 8 weeks in the year that you can wear a bikini!) its just no big deal to me anymore.
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Maya
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Posted: 11 June 2008 at 12:46pm |
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First off, I want to slap your parents! Even if you guys are up front about that sort of stuff, waaaaay uncool! My Dad is the same, he's always railing on one or other of us about our weight. Sucks to him!
I don't actually feel too bad about my stretchmarks, mainly coz I've had them since puberty. I have major issues with my weight and the fact that I'm 30kg heavier than I was pre-gremlins, but then I have done the major weight loss thing in the past so I know I can get it off, it just sucks being pregnant. As soon as this baby is out I am getting this weight off.
Believe it or not tho I actually felt kinda special when I looked in the mirror the other day and saw two new stretchmarks. So far this pregnancy only the old ones have flared up, so I was kinda pleased that Chiara gets to have her own special ones. Crazy I know!
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Maya
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Posted: 11 June 2008 at 12:47pm |
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PS. Pre gremlins I lost 35 kg and never had the saggy skin even tho I'd had a Maya, but I suspect things are now sooo stretched that even when I get the weight off I'll still have the sag.
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Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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caraMel
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Posted: 11 June 2008 at 2:23pm |
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Don't take it down Nikki!
I didn't mean to make you feel bad, sorry!
I'm just a doofus, I'm sure most people on here appreciate the site for what it is and find it comforting.
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FionaS
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Posted: 11 June 2008 at 2:34pm |
Aww hugs. Not nice for your parents to say that.
Excercise and toning the muscles underneath can certainly help a lot but whether or not that is a total fix depends on the person, genetics, the amount of skin etc.
The one thing that exercise WILL do is to make you feel better about your body because you know it is strong and healthy + it releases feel-good hormones too. So exercise is definately a win-win thing.
As for a man finding you attractive...they will (and probably do!). Men are not as shallow as we think. Just to add something into the mix - I don't have stretch mark or saggy skin on my tummy from pregnancy (I do have both on my thighs since my teenage years...buh...genetics) but I have aweful body image issues. I have friends 4 times my size who are happier about their bodies. Men find confidence attractive and love the imperfections we hate. So it is something that many of us struggle with for various reasons - you are not alone.
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Ugh Stretchmarks & Saggy Skin