Completely over everything (big rant!)

Hi Emz,

Have you read Growing Great Marriages by Ian and Mary Grant? Fantastic books!! They are the authors of Growing Great Girls and Growing Great Boys.

Thanks Kathamill, will look for a copy. Mind you, DH doesn't read much, which means I do most of the work in that department and he's the one that really needs to do some research for himself IYKWIM.

Ava's on Ranitidine and Gaviscon, and has Gripe Water at most feeds as well just to help. Plunket nurse back here tomorrow so will see if she needs to go to the doc again to get something even stronger.

Re the highly strung baby thing, it is actually true. I remember doing research on it at Teachers College. Its the chemicals in your body that changes during highly stressful circumstances that can pass on to the baby. They reckon there's a big link to the stressful lives that people live these days and disorders like ADHD etc. Strange but true.

Bizzy, thats what I feel like sometimes, I've said to my mother that I could quite happily leave #2 with someone and not look back. Although I know that's not true, as I do love her, I just don't like her much.

Ah - huge hugs emz. It's been a really tough year for you - hardly seems fair.

With Ava - have you considered trialling her on a non-dairy based formula to see if it helps with the spewing and reflux. I'm sure people are getting tired of me suggesting this but Ryan spews all over the place if I eat too much dairy and his reflux was heaps worse. I just wonder if it would at least stop some of the spewing and I think the DR can prescribe a special formula.

Hugs to you, also didnt want to read and run. You have had a real rough time of it. I hope things pick up for you soon, chick. xxxx

Hugs - all I can say is hang in there! My bubs went haywire in there for a bit, we flew last xmas and she then had issues with the bottle - we got hospitalised after I marched us down to the hospital I got sick of getting the run around from the A&E docs and my doctors locum. I had one really, really bad day in there and demanded big time that hubby get home and feed her, I'd had enough of the back arching and screaming. My hubby is self employed and we don't live near family, I work full time (bubs is just over a year), and at the weekends its just me and bubs which is nice - most of the times, I can only unfortunately just sit here and dream of being a 'normal' family, doing normal weekend things together! Its not easy - and at times I just want to pick up with bubs and go but at the end of the day we are a family and its worth fighting for! The odd fight is ok and its soon forgotten. There is light at the end of the tunnel - I'm sure all will come right - just think what it would be like if you couldn't have kids ... also is there are reason hubby can't watch the kids while you go out for a bit?

How are you today, Emz?
I hope you had a better night last night.

Oh Em, this sux

Hell your having a rough time arent you!

I highly suggest you going to a counciller by yourself it will helps heaps - I promise.

Also though I think you need to put the hard word on your DH - make him come along with you to a new counciller, you need to stop protecting him and worrying about it making him feel worse etc - because he does have to think about you Em and how hes made you feel etc and that this WILL help - and its what you want so he needs to do a bit of give and take - hope that doesnt sound to harsh x

You free this weekend at all? Let me know if you want me to do anything, I can do whatever, take Ava for a walk or something while you have a sleep just anything you let me know. Huge hugs thinking of you lots and lots xxx

Remember your a GREAT Mum!

mollycat wrote: With Ava - have you considered trialling her on a non-dairy based formula to see if it helps with the spewing and reflux. I'm sure people are getting tired of me suggesting this but Ryan spews all over the place if I eat too much dairy and his reflux was heaps worse. I just wonder if it would at least stop some of the spewing and I think the DR can prescribe a special formula.

I gotta say that whatever the allergy guy said taking Jake off dairy made a phenomenal difference to his reflux!!! I just trialled him on goats milk formula before I talked to the doc and went from there. They couldn't test him til he was 1 I think but I didn't care about that I just wanted some respite. He was on Omeprazole instead of Ranitidine which I found worked better on his system too.
Its probably worth a go doing the dairy-free thing Emz it certainly won't do any damage!

As for the stress thing - Jake has ADHD but its also hereditary so not sure if its related to my pregnancy but we have found he has a hugely sensitive system so you are right in that regard and it'll be something to watch for Ava as she grows up but a healthy diet will help alot Jakes really good now!

Anyway just wanted to see how you were doing today

Hey Emz sorry to hear things arent going so well!! Im in chch and I know we dont know each other but if you ever want a coffee or just a chat PM me im always keen to meet new people with young children!

Thanks guys, I think I'll take Ava back to the doc on Friday (work and DC tomorrow).

I'm quite hesitant to try another counsellor as well, we've kind of moved on from some of the issues we initially brought up with this counsellor, but in order for another one to help us we'd have to bring them up again, and I just don't see that as helpful. As it is, DH can't get any time off to go until the start of December so that sucks.

I'm having a slightly better day today, went to visit a friend and her baby so could have a good b*tch session Mum is taking the kids on Saturday night and I'm going to try and go out with some friends on Friday night for a couple of hours to try and get some sense of normal again.

I know we all go through this to some extent, but I feel like I have no idea who I am anymore, I have no hobbies (because we can't afford to do anything) and I seem to be referred to constantly as the mother by everyone, rather than just me. I think I need to focus on finding my sense of self again and hopefully the rest will follow.