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Snappy 
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 Posted: 11 June 2008 at 2:05pm |
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aimee there is also the option of a respite home. These are homes where the mental health patient stays and is monitored 24/7 by trained staff, but also she has the freedom to go about a normal day like watching tv, going for walks etc. the staff make sure she is taking her medication and also checks on them several times in the night.
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Posted: 11 June 2008 at 2:10pm |
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Yup if your SIL asks to be commited then she has every right to do so, and since it's voluntary they won't have to section her. Clearly she is wanting the help otherwise she wouldn't reach out to you or your DH. Something that would help give her closure would be the mothers acknowledgement of what happened in the past. I know it's extremely hard to watch someone you love trying to end their lives, or even talking about it, I went through it for 6 months with my DP, The support yourself and your DH have provided is invaluable. Keep utilising the mental health services you can, they'll help to support your SIL as well as provide strength for yourself and DH. Sometimes it'll all about persistance, making sure that she goes to appointments, takes meds. Don't be disheartened if she relapses, just reassure her that it will get better. I know for a fact that it can.
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Posted: 11 June 2008 at 2:16pm |
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I'm sorry, I don't have anything helpful to add either. I just wanted to say that I'm thinking of you all and sending you best wishes and prayers xx
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Posted: 11 June 2008 at 2:24pm |
 kaiz231 wrote:
aimee there is also the option of a respite home. These are homes where the mental health patient stays and is monitored 24/7 by trained staff, but also she has the freedom to go about a normal day like watching tv, going for walks etc. the staff make sure she is taking her medication and also checks on them several times in the night. |
Not to be a downer here, but thats where my SIL was just before she died. she had begged and begged for help, to be "locked up" and they turned her away. Aimee, my advice is keep knocking on the doors till someone lets her in and you must must beg that she be not allowed to check herself out. To me it sounds like she is determined, and I only hope they can help her, I would not wish this hell on anyone in the world.
Big hugs to you,I really really sympathise. It is such a hard hard thing to go through and there are som many answers th questions that no one will ever know.
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Posted: 11 June 2008 at 2:26pm |
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ALso to add, one of my brothers was in a unit last year getting help for his depression and alot of it stemmed back from when he was a kid and his upbringing. He had also tried to take his life a few years ago as well. My mother also "blamed" him for her behavior and still does. Then brushed it under th erug, so to speak. Definately generational, I reckon. He has managed to move on, but it took alot of help.
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Posted: 11 June 2008 at 6:24pm |
I have had a bit of personal experience with depression and suicide myself and i know what a horrible situation it is for you , cant really offer any advice-im as clueless today about what i could have done differently for my friends as i was when they did it , but im sending you lots of hugs, love and prayers...to you , Dh and SIL 
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Posted: 11 June 2008 at 7:27pm |
Well she has been admitted to the acute mental health ward for two weeks apparently - no one told us what was going on, we only know cos she text. So hopefully this is the start of helping her get better. Thanks again for all your thoughts it really does help. 
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Posted: 11 June 2008 at 7:31pm |
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Best of luck to her, and you, over the next few weeks Aimee.
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Posted: 11 June 2008 at 7:57pm |
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big hugs to you Aimee!!!!
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Posted: 11 June 2008 at 8:15pm |
I am glad to hear that she has been admitted, hopefully she will get the help she needs now.
 - its going to be a tough road, and she will need lots of support, so my thoughts are with you and your family for the upcoming weeks.
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Posted: 13 June 2008 at 9:40am |
Aw, Aimee - what an awful situation for you all. I'm glad she's been admitted - I hope the staff can help her dig her way out of it all, the poor girl. Don't feel guilty about not having her staying at your place right now, you're right - you've got Han & Greer to look after and truthfully, it sounds like your SIL needs the professional help she'll get while admitted, and that's what she's asking for to. I really hope things go better for her and all your IL's soon.
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Posted: 13 June 2008 at 11:05am |
OH Gosh...how horrible.
My DH has had this in his family and has lost close ones in this manner...but the worse thing is it was the first attempt and they succeeded. So in a way its good that you guys know about it and can stop her from doing this.
I do hope that they can help her sort things out, because I have heard that once they make up their mind .... 
Sorry not helping at all. I can tell you the experience left my DH broken and to this day he hasnt fully recovered. I do not wish this on any one...and certainly not on your DH and you guys as a family.
But I think you both have done all you can, so never feel guilty that there was some thing else you could have done. Well done for sticking by her tho.....
This is a horrible situation and I hope that it gets better with time. BIG Hugs!!
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