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caitlynsmygirl 
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 Posted: 09 February 2010 at 6:28pm |
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Meh , what a loon, and you can see where he gets it from , pity you had a bad run with him cos not all guys are like that, (eg my DH ) and not all relationships are like that , guys like that give decent guys a bad name .
Anyway , we might also have a bed for you you can have, its only a double , but you're welcome to it .
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Chickaboo
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Posted: 09 February 2010 at 6:48pm |
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admitting i never read all the replies but I had a similar situation (although in alot longer relationship) it was a couch though.
He paid for all of it and when I left him I took it - at first he was fine with it as he got alot of other good stuff. but then he realised he could use it to get to me and kept bringing up that I owed him money for (granted not the full amount it was worth but i still couldn't afford to pay it)
In the end I totld him to take me to court about it. It shut him up about that - although found something else to get to me.
/if they aren't willing to come get the bed and you don;t want it anyway - no court is going to make you pay the full amount they will just tell you to give it back - which you have offered!
As for a protection order for the harrasment - go for it, they get served with it and also told what will happen if they break it. It doesn't have to be physical just that you are getting harrased and its unwelcomed.
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lizzle
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Posted: 09 February 2010 at 7:14pm |
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GET the trespass order, and go for the restraining. you never know what the nutters might do...or say, and if they do you can show the people in question the order, and the claims will be likely thrown out.
I'd be tempted to send a letter saying "your bed is at my house, i charge $30 a day for storage...you owe me this much money..." but then, i am vindictive.
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M2K
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Posted: 09 February 2010 at 7:15pm |
Woah, his mother trying to put the guilt trip onto you is a bit much (well the whole situation is) but thats really over the top, I hope you do get a restraining order rather quickly 
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MummyFreckle
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Posted: 09 February 2010 at 9:26pm |
Let me know if you are stuck for a bed (lots of offers I know...) we have a double matress (but no base), but better than nothing if you are stuck. 
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peanut butter
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Posted: 09 February 2010 at 10:44pm |
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Tell them if they dont come around and remove the bed by x date you will have it collected by the city mission or something, Think of it like this.....he has left behind property that you dont want. He is inconveniencing you and he needs to sort it out. HE is in the wrong not you. Its not your bed, you dont want it, he needs to do something about it. If he doesnt want to sort it then you can do what you like....you will never be in any legal trouble over it.
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Bombshell
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Posted: 09 February 2010 at 11:06pm |
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OK so that others reading all this dont rely on some of this advice - I just need to confirm to all those who are pushing for a "restraining order" - that the order is for people who have not been in a domestic relationship and it needs two "incidents"
a protection order is for persons in or who have been in a relationship - and can be for many reasons.
hence a restraining order is not appropriate here.
ALSO a trespass order just keeps him physically off her property - not anything else at all (eg phone calls, harassing her down street etc)
and ive chatted with bizzy on this also....nuff said!
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Shezamumof3
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Posted: 09 February 2010 at 11:23pm |
Here's a link from the Minisrty of Justice
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Like Bombshell said, you need 2 incidents and they have to have happened within at least 12 months, so I dont think thats going to be an option.
But you could always ring your local police station and ask what your options are regarding the harassment. It sucks your having to deal with this steph 
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?Lolly?
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Posted: 09 February 2010 at 11:50pm |
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Don't let them bully you! trust me, if you give in it will eat you up on the inside for years to come. If they don't want the bed you are certainly NOT obligated to pay for it.
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pikelets
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Posted: 10 February 2010 at 6:20pm |
You poor thing! What nutters!!
I would definitely report whats happening. At least then you have advised the police and a history has started IYKWIM Sounds like they may know him anyway 
Good luck hun 
PS - do you listen to ZM?? They have a "Do not date him" section on once a week - maybe you should ring them and tell them his name 
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bun_in_the_oven
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Posted: 10 February 2010 at 6:26pm |
i would find great satisfaction dragging it out to the front lawn and burning it.... maybe email him a photo too hahahahahaa - Sorry i love revenge !!
what a nut case.. He is definately responsible for the payments. his name.. his bed !!
Good Luck.. hope they leave you alone and you can get it all sorted soon 
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Posted: 10 February 2010 at 6:32pm |
 bun_in_the_oven wrote:
i would find great satisfaction dragging it out to the front lawn and burning it.... maybe email him a photo too hahahahahaa - Sorry i love revenge !!
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