another mother’s day post! yo mama & MIL

Another mother's day topic...

(mine was lovely by the way... DH made a lovely card and mmmm waffles and for the first time ever, looked after Ella until her morning nap - amazing what a difference it makes when daddy pulls finger!!)

Now that you're a mum, do you still do whatever you used to do for your mum and MIL on mother's day?  My mum used to make a really big deal of it, and the pressure got a bit much so my sis and I have been weaning her off her designs!  DH doesn't do anything for his mum and I feel bad about that, so I organise another of whatever I get for my mum.  But am I a right proper b!tch for thinking that now that I spend all day running about after a baby, mothers day can be just for me, until my kids move out?!?  I don't want it to be another family occasion where I go between my parent's house and in-laws place and feel like the day was full of family obligations. 

I think all those years that we made our mum feel special...it must be our turn.

My mum was away, but we still went to visit the outlaws.

I do not want to make this a day where we HAVE to go and visit! There were so many things I wanted to do with my DP & DS but it didn't happen...so next time I will try and put my foot down more! (try!)

 

Ah Andie, I'm so glad you posted this! We can be best friends

Right better get onto dinner and I'll be back tonight

This is exactly what I have been mulling (stewing?) over these last two weeks. Over the last 4 years I have got cards for M and MIL and sometimes have visited them as well. But this year I figure I *deserve* to have a day to feel special and appreciated instead of being inflicted with obligations! So I did nothing. I left it to DH to wish his own mum a HMD (which he forgot, but I did remind him on the day) and when I sent my mum her (belated -oops) birthday card two weeks ago I wrote "PS Happy Mothers' Day" on it.

Then I put my feet up - as it were - and totally enjoyed being appreciated for the job I do as mum. I kinda feel like, M and MIL have had their day, now it's my turn. For me, it's very difficult to arrange things for both of them and still feel like it was my special day.

DH feels a bit differently though, he wants to know why is he expected to do stuff for me when I'm not his mother!? I told him I'm the mother of the household and he needs to help our kids "do" MD because they are so young. And because it means a lot to me, I go out of my way to make FD special for him (again with cards for F and FIL but I get DH to at least write in his F's card)... so of course I expect a bit of special pampering on MD.

I wonder how much has to do with DH having a better relationship with his M than I do with mine?

Edited by busymum