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   jazzy  
   
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     Posted: 05 February 2010 at 9:57am | 
 
 
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   Where is the sw from? Was she appointed by Child & Family? Is it up to you to decide if you no longer need them or do they decide that.
 
 Sorry if I sound nosey but I don't understand why you need a sw as a result of nicu. 
 
 I still think you should have a word with her supervisor. 
    
   
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     Posted: 05 February 2010 at 11:25am | 
 
 
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   SW's are made available for a number of reasons when you are discharged after high risk births - to access services, to access benefits, for counselling, child mother relationships, learning disabilites , loads of reasons - they are supposed to just facilitate relationships between the families and the services and help when they can. 
 
 They are not anything to do with CYFS
    
   
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     Posted: 05 February 2010 at 4:40pm | 
 
 
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   Yeah, we were offered a social worker when I had Jared.. I said no, DH said yes to a couple of chats with them
    
   
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     Posted: 05 February 2010 at 5:18pm | 
 
 
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   Every hospital I have worked in has SW, they provide a fantastic service when needed.
 
 But this one does not sound like a hospital one as she is not very understanding & supportive towards your pregnancy. 
 
 
 
 
    
   
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     Posted: 05 February 2010 at 5:56pm | 
 
 
  
   
   
     
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     Posted: 05 February 2010 at 7:21pm | 
 
 
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   high risk lol 
 
 
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     Posted: 05 February 2010 at 7:50pm | 
 
 
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 Have you called them yet ? how did you get on ? 
    
   
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     Posted: 05 February 2010 at 8:21pm | 
 
 
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   unfortunately I was busy today with my hospital appointment and monitoring etc. will ring first thing on monday
    
   
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     Posted: 05 February 2010 at 8:36pm | 
 
 
  
   
   
   Lol your post has it now Bizzy    
I agree with the others. If they are causing more pain then good sack em!
     
   
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     Posted: 05 February 2010 at 8:53pm | 
 
 
  
   
   
   
  Tastic wrote:
  unfortunately I was busy today with my hospital appointment and monitoring etc. will ring first thing on monday |   
pfft , doubt it , you'll be busy with Adele who will be born sometime in the next ten hours    
    
   
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     Posted: 05 February 2010 at 9:47pm | 
 
 
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   lol Kelly, Ill make time to do it! just it completely slipped my mind after the hospital today
    
   
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     Posted: 05 February 2010 at 10:01pm | 
 
 
  
   
   
   Umm has this lady got a boss / supervisor?  She needs to be told to "back off".  Her job is to make things easier for you - not harder.  Sounds like it's bordering on harassment, and certainly very unprofessional of her to be calling anyone names.   
BTW - I love my caller ID - have you got that? 
    
   
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     Posted: 05 February 2010 at 10:09pm | 
 
 
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   yes we have caller Id thats how I know its her 
    
   
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     Posted: 06 February 2010 at 7:37am | 
 
 
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   I think it is a little irresponsible for any of us to be suggesting you ditch the social worker to be honest. It sounds like, from what you have said regarding your issues with depression and the type of service you are receiving, that maybe the social worker is concerned you are entering a high risk time (with regards to your depression) with all the stresses of pregnancy and a newborn and is trying (maybe not in the most appropriate way) to help you sort a more accessible preschool to take some of the strain off you. Social services are so often limited and I don't believe they would keep providing a service unless they felt it was warrented. I think maybe requesting a change of social worker or a meeting with her and her supervisor to discuss boundaries maybe a better idea. 
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     Posted: 06 February 2010 at 8:04am | 
 
 
  
   
   
   I agree with freckle & after reading the posts that were deleted (before they were deleted) my previous views have changed. I think you & your DH need to sit down & discuss the issues with all involved as it looks like a SW has been assigned to you & your family for good reasons.
 
I understand how stressful it is being pg & with baby due soon & having other children, but the SW is there to make sure all is right  with the children & reading between the lines I think she is looking out for them.
 I wish you all the best for you new arrival & I definitely would put a child into a center as it will give him a great experience & gives you a break.    
    
   
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     Posted: 06 February 2010 at 8:34am | 
 
 
  
   
   
   
  freckle wrote:
  I think it is a little irresponsible for any of us to be suggesting you ditch the social worker to be honest. It sounds like, from what you have said regarding your issues with depression and the type of service you are receiving, that maybe the social worker is concerned you are entering a high risk time (with regards to your depression) with all the stresses of pregnancy and a newborn and is trying (maybe not in the most appropriate way) to help you sort a more accessible preschool to take some of the strain off you. Social services are so often limited and I don't believe they would keep providing a service unless they felt it was warrented. I think maybe requesting a change of social worker or a meeting with her and her supervisor to discuss boundaries maybe a better idea. |   
Agreed! And you put it so much nicer that I could. I have written and deleted a couple of posts like you have written but I just couldn't get them worded right.
     
   
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