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   Babykatnz  
   
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     Posted: 19 December 2010 at 8:36pm | 
 
 
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   totally OT but omg at your new siggy ginger!!! Massive congrats!!
    
   
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     Posted: 19 December 2010 at 8:38pm | 
 
 
  
   
   
   Oh congrats Ginger! But do you mean due August 2011    
    
   
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     Posted: 19 December 2010 at 9:39pm | 
 
 
  
   
   
   ginger!!!!!      SO stoked for you!!!!!
     
   
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     Posted: 19 December 2010 at 10:17pm | 
 
 
  
   
   
   my dp would cope. dd is nearly 4 months old and i leaver her with him so about 10hours a week when i go 2 work! 
 he does amazling well, hes says he love sthe time with just them two and i love knowing hes enjoying it!!! hes more then happy to change nappys!, sing songs, read her book rock her to sleep etc. he also know hows to make a bottle if shes drunk all the ebm ive left him. makes me feel so lucky to have him!!
 most nights he does the wraping and into bed of her while i do the dishes etc!   
    
   
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     Posted: 19 December 2010 at 10:34pm | 
 
 
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   My DP would/can cope.  I went to Nelson for 3 days last month and left our baby at home with him, so I know he can cope.  He's pretty good.  Though sometimes he makes me feel like I should be doing the majority of things because he works full time.  I just remind him, I look after her all those hours he's working and have no break, except if she has a sleep.  He cook dinner nearly all the time too.  Though my jobs are dishes and washing, so that's a pretty good deal.
    
   
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     Posted: 20 December 2010 at 8:00am | 
 
 
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     Posted: 20 December 2010 at 8:06am | 
 
 
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   OMG HUGE congrats Ginger!!!!! That's AWESOME news! 
    
   
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     Posted: 20 December 2010 at 9:47am | 
 
 
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   My DH could cope, but I don't think much housework would get done. But looking after DS, he would be fine with it. He's a great father and really supportive of me, (probably has more patience than I do). 
 I think he would get bored  been at home though, as much as he moans about going to work some mornings, I think he would a go a bit stir crazy been home all the time.
    
   
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     Posted: 20 December 2010 at 2:33pm | 
 
 
  
   
   
   If he just had the kids he would be fine. But if he had to do everything that I do (running a business from home, keeping up with housework, and doing my typing job) I don't think he'd cope.
 
Dying to test him and have a long weekend away    
    
   
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     Posted: 20 December 2010 at 8:27pm | 
 
 
  
   
   
   I would love to think that DH would not cope, as it is so much harder than it sounds or looks but he can and is actually going to be a SAHD next year when I return to work full time, so at least he will know first hand how difficult it can be and its not all  about going out for lunch/coffee!  
    
   
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     Posted: 21 December 2010 at 1:58pm | 
 
 
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   Congratulations ginger!!!
 
 My DH would absolutely cope.  I went away for a weekend in September and DS and him had a ball.  He would find two kids a bit of a shock just now I think, but D is still pretty little!  We have talked about coming home and DH being a SAHD for a couple of years while I study/go back to work but TBH I can't see him giving up the income.  There's no way I could ever get close to what he's making!
    
   
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     Posted: 21 December 2010 at 5:40pm | 
 
 
  
   
   
   no way would he cope!!   He has only ever looked after the kids by himself when I was in hospital last year, and that was with his mum and my sister helping him out, he had never even bathed them! 
    
   
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     Posted: 21 December 2010 at 5:41pm | 
 
 
  
   
   
   oh and another CONGRATS GINGER!!!  
    
   
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     Posted: 21 December 2010 at 5:53pm | 
 
 
  
   
   
   Thanks everyone     I'm slowly getting my head around it!    
    
   
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     Posted: 21 December 2010 at 6:52pm | 
 
 
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   Wow, that's awesome Ginger!
 
 Mine would if he had to, but we wouldn't do it by choice because his standards of cleanliness etc are lower than mine so while he would be fine with the kid aspect, he wouldn't do the rest.
 
 When he's in the country we pretty much share the duties anyway as we both work the same amount.
    
   
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     Posted: 21 December 2010 at 6:57pm | 
 
 
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   Yep I think the housework thing would've been the hardest, Tyler's dad seems to think it's all fun and games cos he's worked really weird hours ever since T was born, longest he's been with T by himself has been about 4 hours, he seems to think that its not actually a job im doing staying at home and raising a child *sigh*
    
   
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     Posted: 21 December 2010 at 7:21pm | 
 
 
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   My DH is an AMAZING Dad. Has always been very hands on but I'm not sure how well he would cope doing it full time. Still I guess you never know. We as Mothers just get thrown in the deep end with no experiance and we cope ok so who's to say he wouldn't. Maybe I just handle tantrums better because I have a better off switch from being with them 24/7 for the last 3 years lol.
 
 My sister stayed home with her twin boys for the first 6 months then they switched and her DH stayed home for 6 months before they both went back and hired a fulltime Nanny. He was great but he struggled a bit. It is harder for men. At least we fit into coffee groups easier. It would be hard for most men to enjoy an all women coffee group lol.
    
   
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     Posted: 21 December 2010 at 9:16pm | 
 
 
  
   
   
   Woohoo Ginger! awesome news chick! Huge Congrats!    
DH has told me he wouldn't cope lol. He is an amazing hand's on dad and I think he would muddle through if he had to....I just dont know how much of the house work would get done lol But I know DS would be well looked after and worn out    
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     Posted: 22 December 2010 at 11:53pm | 
 
 
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   Yes, my DP is a SAHD and I work full time. He is wonderful with the boys, and has far more patience than me! I couldn't wait to get back to work!! 
    
   
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