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AnnC 
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 Posted: 22 August 2008 at 8:17pm |
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so I was wondering what you decided to do??? Not an easy choice but one that needs to be made. We are all here for you
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pikelets
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Posted: 22 August 2008 at 10:00pm |
Firstly I would like to give you a BIG  . This is an awful situation to be in and I just feel like crying. You have been brave posting this thread and already know the answer.
You need to call either CYFS/MMH/Plunket /police asap if you haven't already.
These babies need help. They can't get themselves out of this situation.
You are not dobbing your sister in, you are helping these babies. How bad would you feel if something drastic happened to them and they were in tomorrow news.
Your sister doesn't need to know you made the call. If you really can't do it you can PM me or anyone else on this thread the details and we can do it for you.
DH is a policeman and has this to add:
You need to step in now as the kids are still developing. The longer this is left the more problems there will be down the track. You have the power to stop this abuse which will be affecting their mental and physical wellbeing. These problems will magnify as they grow older and could in turn lead them to become abusive to their own children or it could also possibly inhibit their behaviour to the extent they become psychotic/suicidal when they are adults.
You MUST NOT feel like you are dobbing your sister in. What you are doing is in fact trying to effect a positive outcome for the future of your niece/nephew.
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Posted: 22 August 2008 at 10:13pm |
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OMG hun big hugs to you!!!
i REALLY seriously think that your sis needs hhelp!
as much as you love her something needs to be done
do you know who her gp is?? perhaps you could ring her gp and have a caht tell them whats up (of course the gp wont be able to tell you anything due to patient confidentially) but at least then her doc will have a heads up.
or ring the doc tell them whats been happening and make a appointment for her, then tell your sis your taking the baby to the doc for a check and take your sis too so the doc can check her out.?
is their any other family member that can help perhaps look after the kids??
i havnt clicked who you are yet (duh brains not working) but ill do it if you live in the same town as me! poor bubs not off to a good start in life and poor you! as much as it hurts something has to be done
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Posted: 22 August 2008 at 11:41pm |
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Hey there guys - thankies for all the help. Mum sorted it out this morning without me having to.
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Posted: 22 August 2008 at 11:41pm |
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god that was stupid, so much for Anon.
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Posted: 22 August 2008 at 11:57pm |
I'm glad its all sorted chick, must be a big load off for you.
Fingers crossed things only get better for your sis and most importantly her kids from here on in.
Also, if you want to, I'm sure admin will remove your posts above for you if you PM?
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Posted: 23 August 2008 at 7:10am |
That must be a huge relief. Im glad it is off your shoulders now hun.
I sorry if you think my post was a bit heavy but I am sooo against child abuse/neglect. NZ has one of the highest rates of child abuse in the world and I believe it is because people ignore the warning signs or don't intervene to break the cycle.
All the best
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Posted: 23 August 2008 at 8:07am |
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ok i see its done....and that is same as what i would have said to do.....
there are plenty of wonderful caregivers out there for under 3 year old kids in care....and i would push for that to occur and to ensure that the family still has contact or offers respite care for the kids....i dont see how any of you could or should take on these kids.....your mum will be torn but so long as there are options for the kids to see family hang in there as support for them and for your sister to get theehelp she clearly needs.....
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Posted: 23 August 2008 at 8:42am |
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LOl Janine I think most of us knew anyhow - glad your mum did something. Not an easy situation to be in
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Posted: 23 August 2008 at 10:22am |
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thank goodness that its sorted and that your mum did it janine - theres no need for you to feel guilty. I hope a long term solution for all involved can be found and that you and your family are able to stay in contact with the children. I believe that this is important as when they get older they dont feel that they were abandoned and unloved but that you all acted in the best interests of the children.
Good luck with it hun and you are an awesome person for caring so much and wanting to do something about it.
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Posted: 23 August 2008 at 10:23am |
oh and enjoy the upcoming wedding hope you have a lovely day you deserve it 
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Posted: 23 August 2008 at 11:27am |
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Yes dont feel guilty janine
and big hugs
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Posted: 24 August 2008 at 8:03pm |
Good it has been sorted, but is it just a quick fix (and this happens again soon) or been fixed properly.
And I can't believe they won't tie her tubes.
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I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived!
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Posted: 25 August 2008 at 10:53pm |
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So has your mum got the kiddos or is someone going round to check out the situation?
Much love to ya lady... hard spot to be in. xoxo
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Posted: 25 August 2008 at 11:59pm |
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they did ties her tubes with her last one thank goodness.
All i know is someone was going round to check. Mum can't cope with any more than the 1st kiddo - he's currently in the process of investigation as to whether he's got aspergers ir if it's actually foetal alcohol syndrome so he's a mad handful anyway (I couldn't handle taking care of him for more than a day!)
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hhhhhm some help and advice please/vent