hating my child! :(:(:(

Could this behaviour have started when the baby was born?

It sounds like he is really wanting your attention. I know its very hard when they are doing everything in their power to hurt/annoy you and also when you are busy with life/housework/other kids but I am willing to bet that if you start to give him more attention - look him in the eye and talk to him. Tell him hyou love him so much but don't like it when he behaves badly, hug him, let him sit on your lap but best of all (and I find this works really well for mine when I feel at the end of my tether) sit down together and design a simple chart (let him stick some stickers on or draw a picture) and give him a sticker for every day he goes without swearing (for example).

What I do is pick one or two behaviours I want to change (like not getting out of bed at night after bedtime) and concentrate on trying to correct them...

Good luck and don't worry we all have ill feelings sometimes!

Maya wrote: Do you think it's worth discussing your concerns with your GP? He or she might be able to provide a different perspective coz there might be something else up that is making him act up.

yip i spoke to my plunket nurse (who has been our nurse since Bay was born so knows him quite well) , I told her of the troubles i had been having and she immediately sugested autism so i said that i had thought of that so now she has put him on the waiting list to see the specialist (apparently only very few autism specialists around!)..she told me to go to his daycare and speak to the teachers about his behaviour and whether they think possible autism so i did and they said that his behaviour at school is no worse than normal and they have a few autistic kids there and Bay is nothing like them/?????? so who knows!!!!!????

Bizzy wrote: BaileyandAstin wrote: Dinner went really well! he ate his veges and then wanted more!!! wow, excellent job then... that must have been a much nicer meal ...

DH and I barely ate our meal! - we spent the whole meal staring at Bay with our mouths open in awe!! lol wonders never seace! (SP???)

I also ignor him when hes having a hissy fit at me now bcos he cant do something and he soon realised that there was no point anD started chatting away to which i answered so he knew i was just ignoring him! ...bit by bit we will get there

thanks heaps!

if hes autistic then so is gabriel LOL!!!

that sounds like you have made some great progress already.

just goes to show that a problem shared is a problem halved...

i dont know why but i feel really really pleased for you...

I have found myself when my 2 boys were the same age you're talking about feeling very guilty for having these horrible feelings about them. Starting about 3ish and all the way to 4 1/2ish they both displayed similar behaviour but come leading up to school time/age they both just seemed to 'snap out of it' so t speak. I constantly say that I don't like 3 yr olds and thats becos I have always found my own 2 boys verrrry stressful at that age, though I do believe from my own personal experiences that it is just an 'age thing' with boys and remember reading something a few years back (someone might know where to find study, google maybe??) that boys get 800% ,or some dramatic number close to that can't fully remember, more testosterone at that age for their growthspurt than a male adult! Would explain a lot hehe

ETA just reading this prompted my brain, it could possibly have been from 'raising boys'??? - really good book btw everyone with a boy should read it IMO

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