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susieq 
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 Posted: 28 October 2008 at 8:36am |
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Thanks Kelly and I hope if you need it I will be able to look after bubba part time if you ever need it
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Posted: 28 October 2008 at 9:44am |
No support here either, we live too far away. If we were closer I think I would be fighting the grandmothers off and I cant imagine ever being allowed to pay them.
That said, Mum plans to be around for the birth of "Peppercorn" and when she goes home MIL will come down. They both came down a week apart when I was inthe first tri and incredibly tired.
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EmDee
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Posted: 28 October 2008 at 10:01am |
My mum has just started looking after the kids 2 days a week as our childcare bill was getting ridiculous ($385/week).
She lives about 1/2 an hour away and stays a couple of nights a week. We give her $50 to help cover petrol and just a little extra money for her, although knowing my mum she will probably spend that money on the kids anyway!
She is also really good about asking how we want things done in regards to the kids. Plus even though I tell her not to bother, she does a bit of housework too! 
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flakesitchyfeet
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Posted: 28 October 2008 at 7:47pm |
I'm really lucky, childcare and early childhood education is the family business.
I truly admire those who do it without family support, big ups to you, that takes strength! 
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SuziE
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Posted: 28 October 2008 at 8:13pm |
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My mum looks after son 5 days a week. She wont accept payment as such but we have come to an arrangement. We pay for her big expenses that come up like car rego and warrent, tyres and repairs, we shouted her flights to sydney, got her a new cellphone, medical bills etc. There are the sneaky little things I do that she didnt agree to though, like I know her hairdresser so I pop in and put money down for her next cut and colour, or I 'borrow' her car and 'accidently' fill it up, or I top up her cellphone .. .. .. :)
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Two Shoes
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Posted: 29 October 2008 at 1:21am |
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When baby arrives, and after some time if I go back to work part-time, I think my MIL would be obliging to help out with some child care, but obviously I'll cross that path when I come to it. My DH's family are very supportive and we will be living in the same city, so are very fortunate about that. My family live @ 1.5 hrs drive away, so I very much doubt they will be helping in that way.
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Nic01
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Posted: 29 October 2008 at 9:47am |
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My parents look after our kids while we work. We've tried to offer them money towards expenses etc but they won't hear of it, so we take them out for dinner every now & then which they seem to enjoy. When they went to Sydney a while back we shouted them to a show there. We just do little things like that to try & show them how much we appreciate them doing it. I keep asking if they're still ok with the arrangement & to tell us if it gets too much, but to be honest they both love having the time to hang out with their grandkids & it's awesome to see what a close relationship the kids have with their grandparents. They love them to bits. Mum is great too & sticks to my routine really well. We'd be totally lost without all their support. I honestly don't know how you guys with no family support cope!!
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MrsMojo
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Posted: 29 October 2008 at 9:57am |
There's a 3 hour crossover between when DH leaves for work and when I get home. My MIL stays with Michaela during that time.
DH puts Michaela to bed just before he leaves and she usually gets up just before I get home so MIL actually has her awake for an hour max but often Michaela doesn't actually wake up until I'm home.
We pay MIL $50 per fortnight which is a pittance, even taking into account the fact she's looking after a sleeping child majority of the time, but she wanted to do it for free and it took some convincing to get her to accept any money.
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Kellz
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Posted: 29 October 2008 at 11:11am |
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I thought everyone is entitled to 9 hrs free childcare a week for under 2's? It might be income tested, dunno. Its great tho!
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MrsMojo
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Posted: 29 October 2008 at 11:27am |
We're not entitled to anything 
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Karen Sweatman
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Posted: 29 October 2008 at 1:02pm |
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Grannies are GREAT for looking after kids, go for it and ask them!
There is no possible way that we could afford to put our kids in daycare. We hit both of our parents up to help us out and they were over the moon to be asked. They love coming and looking after them and spending time with them.
My mum looks after both the kids on Mon & Tues (she drives from coromandle to auckland 3hrs, arrives on sun night and drives home tue night) and hubby's mum looks after them on Thu. I didn't have any worries with my mum but i was a bit hesitant about hubby's mum as she is 68 and i just wasn't sure how it would all go but she is fantastic.
And the best thing is the kids (22 months & 7 months) both absolutely love there nana & grandma which is the best thing ever!
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MrsMojo
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Posted: 29 October 2008 at 1:11pm |
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I read an article (in treasures I think) ages ago about a nana from Dunedin who flys up to Akl on a Sunday night and stays through until Wednesday to take care of her grandchild. The cost of flights (booked well in advance so they get the best deals) is cheaper than paying for childcare in Akl and the nana loves spending the time with her grandchild.
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kiwisj
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Posted: 29 October 2008 at 1:12pm |
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Another one here with "no family support" - although my Mum is coming over a couple of weeks after my due date and will help out for 2-3 weeks. DHs parents are coming the following month.
My grandma looked after me and my sister and brother when we were kids (mum's mum). I loved going round to their place and we did so much fun stuff. Mum's youngest brother is only 8 years older than me so he was around a lot too and is like a big brother to me. Grandma taught me to read too!
I'm sad that my kids probably won't have the same bond with my parents although if we move in the next couple of years it will be to be closer to family.
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ElfsMum
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Posted: 29 October 2008 at 1:21pm |
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My Mum works fulltime so I have noone to look after him and have got my aunty(who can do a few hours once a week )to help with him.. we would get subsidy at childcare but I don't want him in full time preschool.. makes me a bit envious I don't have the same situation as you guys!!:(
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Roksana
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Posted: 29 October 2008 at 1:22pm |
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Hi there...didnt read what others have said but my Aunty looked after Z when I went back to work after 3 months. I paid her each week....but thats because she didnt have a job and had no income and has two kids.
If my Mum ever looked after her I wouldnt pay her....well she would never take my money! (they dont really need it...) However like what other have said, I would buy her some thing nice every so often..
Best thing would be to ask really! I am sure all would fall in place!
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ElfsMum
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Posted: 29 October 2008 at 3:40pm |
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oh and I do pay my aunty..
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Posted: 29 October 2008 at 6:43pm |
I don't feel so alone now! 
DH parents live in tauranga and would love to spend more time but both work and try to come up when they can.
My parents see DS about once a week when we visit as a family. Great news though they are going to look after DS so we can go to the parent and child show for a few hours so that is the best news!!!I suppose it's not really that bad after all.
I would love to leave DS with mum instead of him going to daycare but that's not an option.. Oh well .. poor me!!!
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