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ooEvaoo
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Posted: 07 December 2010 at 10:49am |
My mum had her 7th child at 40, my dad was 51. I had my first just under a month after turning 22. Though DF and I say will have around 4 kids...My cut off age will prob be 40.
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FionaO
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Posted: 07 December 2010 at 11:56am |
I guess it depends on what you can cope with, I saw this post and my immediate thought was being pregnant at 60, 70 and beyond is a bit much, I suppose for the health and wellbeing of all concerned kids and parents.
38 is not old at all though!!
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Posted: 07 December 2010 at 2:23pm |
LOL, i was wondering how old you were when I saw the topic - thinking more 58 than 38! 38 ISN'T old at all. Given you've got several kids already, you know what's involved and the energy drains (but also the benefits). I'd say go for it.
My mum had me at 33 and died 3 years later of cancer. Dad was 47 when my sister was born and is still kicking along at 72! I think a lot of the age thing is attitude as well. Dad is an OLD 72 (and was an old 47) - much more like a grandfather with similar energy levels.
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Posted: 07 December 2010 at 4:14pm |
I agree with everyone else about age being a state of mind.
38 isn't at all old, I know loads and loads and loads of people who have their first when they are 40. Sometimes it's just what life throws at you that makes it turn out that way.
In my former life I was a secondary school teacher and I have seen everything in terms of ages for parents - from the parents I nearly asked if they were older sibblings to the parents I assumed were grandparents. It takes all sorts to make this world we live in and if you're up for another child - GO FOR IT  (In my opinion, there's no "right: age, but yeah 68 does feel a little hmmmmmm)
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Posted: 07 December 2010 at 6:25pm |
oh my goodness,38 isn't old! 38 is just in the middle of being young
I had my first at 20, was fine because I knew no different, but am much preferring this time round at 28,I feel a lot more settled.
This is my last baby,but if I was to have more, I wouldn't be worried if I was in my 30s, 30 is the new 40 dontchaknow
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Posted: 07 December 2010 at 9:14pm |
no I dont think 38 is too old to be pregnant.
a mum in my antental group was almost 37 when her son was born.
I always wanted to have at least one child before I was 35 (turn 35 in January) but that was more an idea not a must.
and heck my nana was 45 when she had her last baby and is still alive at the age of 94!!!
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Posted: 07 December 2010 at 10:44pm |
Mum was 41 when she had the youngest of us. She was 35 with the oldest. Mum is still an active grandmother at 64 takes DD out and about, plays with her chasing games things like that. No she won't be playing sports with her but heck I probably wouldn't lol.
Dad on the other hand is no hope of helping with DD at all he can barely walk himself and is only 64. He has issues, alot. And he actually isn't very interested in DD ignores her alot when all she wants is some attention. Bit of a stick in the mud too
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Posted: 08 December 2010 at 8:49am |
My Mum had me at 37 which these days isn't considered old to be starting a family at all. She already had 3 children that were 15, 13 & 11 at the time.
All my sisters waited until they were well into their 30's before starting a family.
I think the one thing you have to consider are the risks are much higher as you get older. There are higher risks of things like downsyndrome and a much more increased chance of multiples after 35.
Also I think you have to be prepared to be active and involved 10 years down the track. I remember my Mum never really being all that involved in my life as a teenager :( I think she was pretty over the whole running around at sporting events and hosting kids partys by the time she was hitting 50 & I was only 13 then so I needed an active and involved Mum. Although that maybe says more about the person than the age :) Everyone is different. Age is just a number and 38 is certainly not a high one lol
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Posted: 08 December 2010 at 9:58am |
My mum only had one child, Me  at 39, and she's been so loving and caring and always done the best by me. She stayed home with me for the first 5 years, and then went back to work part time.
I think being a mum is the hardest job in the world and maybe you appreciate the gift of a child more as you get older. I seem to have seen alot of people say that they enjoyed the kids they had later in life, almost more than the ones they had earlier.
Maybe it's just me, but I think as we get older, we realise that life gets harder, bad things happen to people we love, and we start to appreciate what we have a whole lot more because of that.
I miss the ignorant bliss of being a teenager and thinking that life was always going to be easy, but at the same time I have more appreciation for the great things that happen. Hence, when I have a baby NEXT YEAR (wishful thinking/power of the Secret and all that) that I'll embrace it with so much more power because I've waited for it and realise what a truly amazing gift a child really is xxxx
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Posted: 08 December 2010 at 11:14am |
I must say that I do enjoy my last child more which I had just after my 30th. But I my reasons may be a bit weird for some.
Because I was pregnant at 19 I felt like I had to prove myself. I had to be supermum, finish uni and support myself. I was looking at becoming a single teenage/just turning 20 mum and the stigma that I felt was attached with that. So I can say that I didn't really enjoy being a mum as I was so busy trying to sort my life out. Both DH and I were just kids ourselves.
We got back together after all the drama and got married and I had my second child. At that point we moved overseas and with so much going on I didn't miss the good times but I didn't appreciate them with my son. Mind you they were short lived as he was such an active boy and by 9 months he was walking and life was crazy.
Finally my third came along and it was a real rocky start. She was a troubled baby and finally after surgery at two and a half she settled down and I can really appreciate her now and we have fun.
I think circumstance comes into it. Being older I think you have the time to focus on babies as everything else is in place and life isn't so crazy.
The downside of having kids young for my DH is that when he takes my 14 year old out they don't know if he is a older guy preying on a kid or a brother to her. He looks barely 20 and has been mistaken for my son twice before even though he is 1 year older than me. For me is when I joined the PTA and one of the mums had a son my age. Her daughter was the same age as mine and was a surprise later on in life.
The good side is I now have a legal babysitter whilst my friends all have toddlers so we have a social life again.
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Posted: 08 December 2010 at 11:36am |
My Mum was 24 when she had my oldest sister (same age as I was when I had Isla) and was 44 when she had my little brother. She is always saying that she thinks she was a better Mum to us last 3 kids when she was aged 35-44 than what she was with the first 3 kids.
When my little brother was at primary school, sometimes the other kids would pick on him cause his Mum looked like she could be his grandma but in all honesty, even tho my Mum is almost 60, i don't think she has actually aged since I was born lol. She still acts like she is only 40. She has great style in clothes and has the filthiest mind lol. She still has heaps of energy and we get along like mates, she is hilarious. My Dad on the other hand, who is only 51 (yup, mum was a cradle snatcher) has always acted like an old man. He is the more traditional one. He looks much older than Mum too..... especially now he has brain cancer so the radiotherapy and chemo have aged him by another 10yrs.
Altho I personally want to have completed my baby making by the time I'm 30, I don't think 38-40 is too old at all
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