Hug your babies and never let them go

Huge, huge hugs Robyn! Sometimes life really sucks! A close friend of mine lost her wee 6 month old boy, Kalen, to SIDS last year and it is the most horrible thing to have to go thru.

I wish I could tell you what to say to your friend, but truth is I don't think there is anything you can say. I remember writing a card for T and the words just came tumbling out but I can't for the life of me remember what I said.

Life just sucks, and bad things happen to good people sometimes.

More hugs, will be thinking of you and your friend and her wee boy.

oh thats so horrible and sad.

oh my gosh! that sent shivers up my spine! and made me cry!!! Im so sorry that they have to go through this! life really does suck!!!! sometimes

Thanks ladies. Its horrible when your best friend is living your worst nightmare and at the same time your thinking thank god its not me as horrible as that sounds. We agreed I would come out and see her tomorrow, giving her a bit of space with her family but should I be going to see her today? I kind of feel like I should be doing more but at the same time dont want to crowd her and I know they are bringing him back today.

I also went through this last year with a friend who lost her 5 month old. She was 6 weeks older than Ashleigh and we met in hospital as her little one was prem aswell. I had no idea what to say and like you was feeling so awful for her but also relieved that Ashleigh was ok. But as my frined said, even the people who just rang/text and said "I don't know what to say" did help and she knew people were thinking of her and were there to help if they wanted. I have kept in touch with my friend but for various reasons haven't seen her since the funeral. She is having an unveiling for the grave in a couple of weeks (would have been her daughters 1st birthday) which I'm going up tp Auckland for. Will be nice to see her again but, 6 months down the track, I still don't know what to say to her

I personally would wait until tomorrow to see her, just so she can spend the day with her son. Take care, its a big shock for you aswell xx

Ooh good ideas. I just went out and brought her a loving touch rose but i love the idea of the photo on the day he was born. might have to track that down and the grocery idea is great too cos I know she hates that on a good day! She is doing really well, straight away she said to me dont worry, I dont know what to say so dont expect you to know what to say. She just so doesnt deserve this.

omg thats so sad, brought tears to my eyes jsut thinking about it, its a parents worst nightmare to lose a child especially so young.
noone deserves to go through this, im sure no matter what you do your friend will appreciate it even if your not sure what to say, just being there lets them know you care.

life is cruel and so unkind sometimes it just makes me so sad and angry. My thoughts are with your friend and her family and you, it's not easy to be strong for others when your own heart is breaking too.
May I suggest to make some dinners that can be frozen or even take-away vouchers from some food shops near where they live.
And yes, I will be giving my DD an extra big hug when she wakes up this afternoon after reading this
xxx

 I just dont know what say. How awful for this poor family. Your friend and her family will be in my prayers.

It is so tragic ehen anynone loses their baby. Big, big hugs to you and to your friend and their family. You are amazing becasue you care so much, and that is what people need when they experience so tragic a loss.