I don’t my baby anymore :-(

Hi ladies. Drama for me & its a bit of a novel.......

I had the worst night last night, Alex wouldn't go to bed which is very unusual for him, then he kept waking up throughout the night. My fiancee Spencer woke up at 5am this morning as usual to head to work & I asked him if he could bring Alex in to me (he was crying again!) because I was sooooo tired. He was like "ah nah I want to have a coffee before I head to work & I can't be late coz we are all trying to finish up early this morning."
I was like WTF?????? Alex's bedroom is right next to ours & its not like he EVER gets up to Alex during the night! But off he went made his coffee & shot out the door, so I got Alex up & brought him back to bed.
8am & Spencer gets back, rushing around to get all his motor-x gear into the car. Gives me a kiss & heads off. I got up to make breakfast & I was planning on shooting down the road to get Quikeze for my heartburn, in the ute....No keys, no eftpos card in my wallet & the blimen garage is padlocked shut anyway. I rung Spencer to find out where the keys are & my eftpos card are & he tells me that he has them & he won't be back until 8pm tonight. Great so here I am stuck at home, heartburn is killing me & I can't go out coz I have no keys for the ute & I don't have my eftpos card anyway, Alex is screaming his head off, poor boy I think he might be getting his back molars but I'm not sure.
And tomorrow Spencer is planning on going to another motor-x ride so I will be by myself all day tomorrow too. So I'm having a bad day & I've been bawling my eyes out for most of it coz nothing is going right. If this is how things are now how the hell am I going to cope when Baby no.2 arrives???

Edited by toniellis

try some milk maybe? that always used to make me feel better.

Can relate in some way to how you feel - hubby goes to speedway and speedway related things alot and works on cars etc.

you do get to the point where you wonder how on earth you will handle having a 2nd one.. but you just do it.

Im sorry but I wouldnt put up with that. I think your a strong woman thats for sure. Good for you.

Hope your days get better.

Aw Toni!!! Are any of your parents or friends close by??? I'd have driven over with some quickeze for ya (even if I was in Rotorua) but I'm in Wellington which isn't so much help. Maybe you should move here??!?!

If I didn't have plans for tomorrow I could have come to Matamata for the day, if you're not busy next weekend and Spence is off again maybe I could? Rols is in Dunners for work.

Awww Toni, he sucks... But I sooo know how you feel - bloody cars/bikes/anything with motors... My hubby is always off faffing around with cars and I hate it. Hope your day got better and Alex is having a good day today

Hi ladies, thanks for the tip about milk yesterday. I saw the advice & bolted down to the cowshed with Alex for some milk. Thank god it worked so THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!

Well just an update. Spencer must have known he was in the dogbox last night (it could have had something to do with the threatening look I gave him when he walked in the door..) because he actually offered to cook dinner and even better he actually DID cook dinner! We had a bit of a heated argument after Alex went to bed. I'm pretty sure I wasted my breathe though because I had yet another bad night with Alex last night & Spencer was too tired from riding to get up for me
And to make mattters worse, I had to get up early this morning (5.15am) because I had to milk the cows too. So I'm blimen tired and my ribs & feet are killing me.
Unfortunately there isn't much I can do about it as Spencer has shot off to go riding again. I really didn't think he would because I said I needed him today and its raining too....but he rang up to check the track would be open & it is so he's gone.
At least this time he left me the ute keys...just not my eftpos card.
The good news is that Alex isn't too bad today. Its definitely another tooth coming through (no. 17) so I've dosed him up with Pamol. I'm really hoping he has his midday sleep abit early today so I can get some shuteye too.
So now what do I do?

Hey Nikki, my closest family is 2 hours away, along with most of my friends. Thanks for the offer of Quikeze. I would have KILLED for some Quikeze yesterday. Luckily the milk did the trick.
Hey Jax, yeah we are in Matamata, well Waharoa actually but thats a 5 minute drive from Matamata so close enough I have no idea about next weekend... At this stage I have plans but they are all up in the air at the moment so really not sure.

Thanks everyone for the support, I'm feeling like I'm at my wits end right now, but its just kind of hit all of a sudden really. I'm just wondering if it could be the preggy hormones making it so much worse? Or the fact I feel like a fat pig that can't move Maybe I'm just not clear enough on how hard I'm finding things, but saying "Babe, I'm not coping!" seemed pretty damn clear to me. I dunno.

Hey Toni, well where do i start Shane has never done that before, he always asks if i need him to do anything before he goes out. Man you should talk to him that would drive me insane, you are meant to be in this together not him doing what he wants and you having to stay at home with a little boy who is not good.
Give him a kick up the ass and tell him to get his sh*t together, otherwise you may aswell be doing it all by yourself (sounds like you are anyway). Hope he pulls his head in real soon, for you more then anything.
AND like southland mummy said YOU SO SHOULD NOT BE MILKING COWS AT 32 WEEKS. Hope things improve soon, chin up, keep smiling.

dats the matter matter with matamata.....groan -corny

Toni u need to tell that man of yours that u are his wife not his slave he can buck up his ideas or he'll soon regret it when he comes home to none of his laundry done and no dinner waiting -mwahahahaha

seriously tho i hope the situation improves

Big hugs Toni. Hope today is going better for you - and that Spencer milked the blo*dy cows himself this morning!

I feel you on the useless male thing tho - mine was out all weekend with his mates, and now I'm stuck with him all day while he recovers from a hangover. Lucky me.