I’m a vindictive cow

FionaS wrote: Oh dear, it's sad she said that to you but it is also sad that she is going through this. Being a Mum is such a tough ride do despite what she did to you I can't help but feel for her. You did the right thing, I'd support her for now and have a chat about things later when she is coping better. You know what, I guarantee you remembers what she said to you and I bet she feels dreadful about it. Clearly she had no idea of how hard being a Mum is (none of us do I guess) and that probably makes things extra hard for her). If you are nice to her and supportive of her now I bet you she will feel more guilty about her words and actions than if you turn on her. I guarantee she is dragging herself over hot coals for those things she said to you. Sounds weird I know but hopefully YGWIM.

yep i agree with fiona. nicely said too.


i remember before i had kids the things i used to say about how i was going to raise them and what sort of kids they would be. i remember these comments with shame tho. and my sister and i laugh about them now and how naive i was.