Mother-In-Law Advice

busymum wrote: arohanui wrote: - follows our ways of discipline and looking after the kids (this is mainly a safety thing, things are done differently these days) I agree with this, but also I like a grandma who may remind the kids "Is that what mummy told you to do?" but not to take over any form of discipline as that is not her job. I totally agree with the ringing before coming around comment! We have finally got my IL's trained on that one... I think... or do they just not come now at all?

Yup I think that's the best way to deal with it, rather than grandparents having to fully discipline their grandkids all the time. I guess it was a polite way of trying to put "we don't smack our kids and don't want anyone else to" lol. And things like what food he can eat, where he can go etc.