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Topic: Mr tired grumpy Posted: 20 August 2007 at 7:50pm |
Me.
bad things
I have too many things on. I'm tired and have a headache. My IL's have too many birthdays on this time of year, and im feeling tired just thinking about all those. My relationship with Dad isn't so great atm. I'm not getting to see the kids during the week. I have performance reviews coming out of my ears. My job deadline/review time is coming up. I have to go out tomorrow night. My cool BIL isn't here, and busymum doesn't like playstation. My garage is still a mess, as is my wardrobe and i haven't had a chance to clean them up. My computer games that i own don't do it for me anymore. I can't play the guitar as well as id like to. The printer is bunging up. The girls don't yet know how to put things away after themselves so T and I have to tidy up the lounge everyday. I have too much stuff in my head from work. Briona played with my mp3 player this morning and when i turned it on i found it had been already recording for 30mins beforehand.
Good things.
There are no weeds in my rose garden, after 8 weeks from laying down mulch mat under the stones. Krissi is cute. Busymum is sexy. My desk is still here. My router works properly for a change. I caught up with my best friend about a week ago - after about 8 months of not knowing if he was still my best friend. I'm alive. We have food in the fridge. In fact we have two fizzy bottles in our fridge - oops i mean 1.  I'm learning lots at my work. I finished a large project today at work. I'm about to finish two things at home. The fluffy frog on my computer is still smiling. My car is working great.
Thanks for listening.
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MummyFreckle
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Posted: 20 August 2007 at 8:25pm |
Anytime Chovynz! Think we all have weeks / months like that sometimes! Hang in there - focus on the good things and the bad things will soon fade away!
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Posted: 20 August 2007 at 8:33pm |
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mmm
hard too focus on the good atm.
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Posted: 20 August 2007 at 8:34pm |
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I feel like doing something randomly creatively off the wall.
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Posted: 20 August 2007 at 8:36pm |
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Did you know i suffered from depression the last few years and early this year? That was a hard time on Teresa and me. She thinks im starting / already started to come out of that.
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Posted: 20 August 2007 at 8:50pm |
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your brave, im to scared to list all the bad things happening atm. will have to focus on the good things.
when you say she 'thinks' your starting to come out if it does that mean in reality your not?
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Posted: 20 August 2007 at 8:52pm |
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something random...... hmmm get a tattoo, dye your hair (maybe a girl thing) peirce your .....fill in the gap (and no I dont mean IT, just something, anything) ewww reminds me, i had a friend who once did something random and peirced the bit between her boobs. she had a plastic rod about 3cm long inserted with at stud thing on each end, totally freaked me out.
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Posted: 20 August 2007 at 8:58pm |
Big hugs, Chovy. I think we women can all be a bit guily of sometimes just expecting you all to soldier on a bit and not stop to think that you guys feel overwhelmed sometimes as well. You are doing a great job. And as a fellow inmate of the crazy house, I have to say, it's great when people can be open about their battles with the black dog.
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Posted: 20 August 2007 at 9:09pm |
I am a great believer in a good nights sleep making everything better (or at least seem not so bad when you're not tired).
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Posted: 20 August 2007 at 9:14pm |
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I know how Teresa feels my DH is suffering from depression at the moment. But hang in there. You should dye your hair that is being creative.
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I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived!
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Posted: 20 August 2007 at 9:39pm |
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Removed - Sorry wasn't meant to cause offence.
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Posted: 20 August 2007 at 9:45pm |
fleury wrote:
Of all the bad things you have mentioned, they are all just fluff. Trust me anything that requires cleaning can wait.
I don't like computer games or playstation either.
You obviously don't know how lucky you really are, to have a lovely wife and 3 wonderful girls.
Take a peak at the 'Pray for Alex' thread to help put everything into perspective.
If you're tired and grumpy w a headache, take a panadol and go to bed. It will all be better in the morning.
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Ouch. People who suffer from depression don't quite see it like that. It's not quite as simple as taking a panadol or just getting over yourself.
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Posted: 20 August 2007 at 10:35pm |
do a random thing - go give Teresa a great big hug and kiss and tell her she is the best thing that ever happened in your life...and do it quick before she reads this....
BTW i only came in here cause i thought you were calling for BSDH by that title....
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Posted: 20 August 2007 at 11:27pm |
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Ahaha. I haven't seen mr pumpkin for a while. is he ok?
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Posted: 20 August 2007 at 11:30pm |
fleury wrote:
Of all the bad things you have mentioned, they are all just fluff. Trust me anything that requires cleaning can wait.
I don't like computer games or playstation either.
You obviously don't know how lucky you really are, to have a lovely wife and 3 wonderful girls.
Take a peak at the 'Pray for Alex' thread to help put everything into perspective.
If you're tired and grumpy w a headache, take a panadol and go to bed. It will all be better in the morning.
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Mmm, ouch i agree. I was going to reply to this, but im just too tired. I will say this though - theres more, but the tough thing is its all happening at once, and i cant get them out of my head until they are dealt with.
And i do know im lucky/blessed to have Teresa and the kids. Theyre one of the things that are helping me.
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Posted: 21 August 2007 at 12:02am |
I like playstation but only have ps1, unfortunatly - or fortunatly- we havn't got any of the new games, I like them for destressing and just blogging out, this forum is a great help with that at times like this when the kids are in bed & I should be too but just want some alone/down/relaxing time.
I also agree that cleaning stuff can wait but it still adds to the stress & cuts into your couple time or it is left for one person to do & from your other posts you don't seem like the type to leave everything to Teresa, & your feelings for your DW and children are easy to pick up on in other posts also.
Pick me for being a part of that "crazy house" group, but just being able to tell someone takes some of the weight off the shoulders, good on you for sharing.
Something randomly creative uummm, pop into a $2 shop on the way home & pick up a tiara & magic wand and wear them when you walk in the house - pretend to be the fairygodfather and grant some small wishes for the girls - maybe leave that for Saturday morning, just remembered you arn't getting to see the girls during the week - maybe you could do the same for T - put a smile on her face hahaha
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Posted: 21 August 2007 at 12:21am |
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PS. feel free to vent this is a place to get things off your chest not for judgment or comparison, hope things ease up for you soon
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Posted: 21 August 2007 at 7:01am |
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There is light at the end of the tunnel, it's just hard to find sometimes. Coming from someone who suffered depression and quite frequently felt like eeyore walking around with a big rain cloud above the head you will get there.
The fact that you made a list of the good as well as the bad shows that you are starting to deal with things, which is a big step in itself. All I can suggest is baby steps one day at a time and talk, talk, talk.
For those that don't or haven't had depression it's hard to understand why. Saying get over it is like telling a dead person to simply start breathing again. The best way to describe it is imagine drowning and every time your head gets near the surface so you can take a breath it gets pushed back down. You can faintly see the light at the surface but you can't get there no matter how hard you swim. That's how hopeless life feels when you have depression.
Well that's just my little insight.
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Posted: 21 August 2007 at 6:44pm |
nuttymama wrote:
For those that don't or haven't had depression it's hard to understand why. Saying get over it is like telling a dead person to simply start breathing again... |
Well there was this one guy... And i know of a few others too.
Thanks to all the other stuff and other replies from other people. It does help just to be able to say things and get them out.
Lol Hailstones. thanks.
Re: Depression
I was talking to a guy at a party (we'd just met) and was telling him about me in response to his questions. I went through a list of things that i was doing and had I.e 3 beautiful girls, a great job, graphic design job, good this blahblah that, blow my own trumpet etc... and at the end I told him i suffer from depression. I had just found out what it was, but didn't realise until someone explained the symptoms to me. I told them I had that! And since then I've recognised it to be in the family as well. I digress.
Anyway this guy i told that i suffer from it almost fell off his chair. He couldn't understand why with all the things i've accomplished and done and have why I was depressed. Looking back I can't either , but i was/am coming out of it.
Heh. Sidenote: I'm a perfectionist, depression sufferer, Hard on myself and others, and I have an amazing life but very easily get cynical. It's weird.
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